Worried parent

[amanda19608]

My Daughter is 10 years old and on her first trip abroad to spain with her school today. My anxiety is through the roof with worrying, had hardly no sleep, keep getting what if thoughts spinning around my head and i'm sick with the anxiety..My partner keeps trying to reassure me she's going to have a wonderful time away with her friends but I just can't stop panicking. She's leaving from the school in a few hours and I will be going there to wave her off but I know i'm going to be a wreck when she leaves..How can I stop myself thinking of the negatives and just think of the lovely time she's going to have

[IBS_Problems]

The school know how to deal with this stuff. I know it hard to let you’re baby go off into the world without you but honestly I will I had the chance to do that with my school I’d be sooooooo excited!

Do the get calls to you I think 10 is a bit young to have a phone. She with people who will take good care of her and she will have the time of her life in Spain. Try some breathing tricks, how long is she gone for? Is it long like a week or just two or three days?

K x

[amanda19608]

I spoke to her today, she's having a wonderful time. She's only away for 2 nights so she'll be home tommorow. I feel a bit more relaxed since speaking to her. Can't wait to pick her up from the airport tommorow 😃.

Thank you for replying

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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️good mom!

[Hidden]

Aw lady! First off...

I’m sure she’s SO excited to go. I remember when I traveled for the first time, I was nervous as it was with guys I didn’t know super well in a band. But it was safe. She’ll also be safe! A school is the best group to travel with.

Second of all... my first time away from home, I thought “I want my mom” after the first night. We all miss the comforts of home.

So just remember that! She will miss you too! We’re so lucky to have technology to keep in touch. Guaranteed, you raised a lovely girl who is gonna grow even more cultured and will come home with great stories for you. Maybe even a few presents

Nothing will make you stop missing your daughter! Come here to talk whenever you need to ❤️ She’ll be so safe!

[amanda19608 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much 😃 I've also been following the school website where they have been updating regularly with what they have been up to and pictures of the kids having fun.

Can't wait to hear all her stories when she comes home, no doubt she will have so many 😂.

Oh and she's already bought me a pressie, a keychain with a little turtle on she says 😁😁

❤️❤️

[majolie]

I know this reply will come to you after your daughter is home, but I thought I'd give my input for future times when your daughter goes on trips, gets her drivers license, goes off to college, etc. All of these things are part of her future, and all of them will cause you some level of anxiety, because after all, you're her mom and you love her! First of all, I'd say she's very blessed to have a mom who cares so much about her. Secondly, I'd say it's normal to worry when our kids are far away and we sense that we have no control. I have two grown daughters, and I've worried plenty, especially when the youngest announced that she was going to Africa ALONE to travel and work with a group that helps child soldiers. Talk about WORRY. So I can totally relate to what you said. I suppose that what I've learned is: 1) control is an illusion, even when they're home with you! 2) I turn my worries into prayers, which brings much peace 3) I can do many pro-active things to make sure she will be safe and to have regular check-in times 4) I can join with other moms whose child is on the same trip or at the same point in life (such as going off to college) for the purpose of sharing our concerns and even praying together. It's so important for YOUR emotional health that you learn to gently and progressively "let go"...it's our job as moms to work ourselves out of a job and raise strong, productive, smart kids who'll make us proud and be a blessing to the world! So even if you do feel anxious, be as enthusiastic, supportive, and confident as you can when your daughter reaches each milestone. When she's grown, she's likely to be one of your best friends. I hope this helps!