Some Improvement & Lack of Direction

[Jamie_S]

As of last week, I've finally given meditation a try after years of thinking it wasn't for me or that it was ridiculous and doesn't work. I can say that it does work, and isn't as ridiculous as it may seem. I've been using this app called "Calm" as it was recommended to me by Mathew Santoro, a YouTuber who has been using it and claims it helped him beat his depression, and it is exactly what it says on the tin, calming. It helped me control my worries when they rose and regain control of my thoughts to an extent, I still have off days but it's a work-in-progress I suppose.

Anyways, another thing that I wanted to post about was my current lack of direction. Recently I've been feeling like I'm lost in life, not knowing what I want to do for a living or where I should start to look. I think of it as me standing in a circular room with thousands of doors surrounding me, each leading on a different path, I haven't got a clue which one I should pick or where to even begin.

I have again been worrying that I'm falling behind because of this and that I need to accomplish every major goal in my life as soon as possible before it's too late even though It really isn't a race.

What I would like to ask is, what is your advice for me? You may not have any advice and that's totally fine, I appreciate the time you took to read this and I wish everyone here the best and good luck on your individual journeys!

[Agora1]

Hi Jamie, I'm glad you gave meditation a try. I never thought much of it when I first

started but now not a day goes by that I don't meditate 2-3 times a day. I found for

myself it's not about the length of the video on YouTube but the quality of the voice

and words spoken. I'm at the point now where within moments of hearing the voices

of my favorite speakers, my shoulders drop, my breathing slows and I go into a relaxed

mode. Continue doing it, it only gets better x

As for finding some direction in life as well as purpose, start with one thing you have a

passion for and go for it. I remember at one time in my life that I use to say "I didn't

know what I wanted to be when I grew up". The thing was I was already in my late 20's.

My psychiatrist use to tell me that I was like a lost person in the middle of the ocean looking for direction. Lost and getting nowhere. Once I focused on something I've

always loved, I went for it. I found myself. It's never too late. Don't allow your

indecisiveness hold you back. When the time is right, it will all fall into place.

Wishing you well. xx

[wingsofadove]

Jamie, I think these words from your post are a clue, to my thinking, anyway. You write-

" I have again been worrying that I'm falling behind because of this and that I need to accomplish every major goal in my life as soon as possible before it's too late even though It really isn't a race."

Meditation teaches us simply to Be, and to live steadily in the here and now. Worry about the future can be non-productive and extremely stressful. I wish you peacefulness and wellness in every way and with every best wish. I am sure from the awareness which you are developing, and the way in which you are progressing that you are very close to getting there. Good luck.

[more2lif3]

Hello Jamie_S, sorry for my late response. I hope things have changed for the better for you. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Worry can definitely take a toll on your body, so I hope that the meditation is continuously helping you. It seems to me that you're being too hard on yourself. What do you think is causing you to think this way? What are you passionate about? Maybe you can start with learning more about what you're really passionate about and see ways to expand that. I recently heard a great message that helped me have a different perspective in life. I hope this will help you find the answers to what you're truly aiming for... (it's a quick message and very insightful) - Part 1: bit.ly/2QiC62w and Part2: bit.ly/2EuDRoJ. I will be thinking about you.