Cannot control my anxiety at all... Seeking some advice

Hi everyone...

I've been feeling this way for a while now, a few months. It started with tension headaches/neck pain and has seemed to escalate a lot! I'm at the point now where I feel like I can not get a good, deep breath of air (I've tried belly breathing) this seasons to make the muscles in my back tight and painful, I jump at even small noises, some dizziness and just feeling "off" constant butterflies in my stomach, sick in my stomach, and reaaaaally tired all the time! I believe this is anxiety.... But I don't know. I have googled everything under the sun about all of the possible things that could be wrong with me (which is a bad idea I think!).

I've tried some herbal remedies but nothing seems to be working. I haven't gone to my GP yet, but I'm getting close to my wits end. I'm feeling really miserable and just want to feel good again :( sigh. I also think the people I'm closest too are sick of hearing me talk about this.... But it's all I can think about anymore. Sorry so long.

If anyone has any helpful advice it would be greatly appreciated!!

Kay

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  • Hi, I know all those feelings well! I get them too from anxiety. What's helped me is getting cbt. You should visit your gp and ask to be put forward for therapy. I spent all of last year feeling just like you, waited 5 months for therapy, but am feeling much better now (although I still have off days, I can see them for what they are "a day" and don't let them pull me into a spiral of worry). It can get better but you need to fight it by understanding it and learning techniques to manage it good luck Xx

  • Hi leveller,

    Thank you so much for your reply! This site is great because it makes me "get out if my head" and realize I'm not the only one out there who feels these things.

    I will definitely talk to my GP about CBT. I would rather not have to go on medication for this, unless I have no other options. It's just do crappy to feel like this every single day. I noticed when I wake up I feel fine.... Then as soon as I think hey! I feel ok... There come the butterflies, knot in my chest and so on.

    I really appreciate your reply and will def. look into CBT.

    Best wishes to you,

    Kay

  • Hi leveller,

    Thank you so much for your reply! This site is great because it makes me "get out if my head" and realize I'm not the only one out there who feels these things.

    I will definitely talk to my GP about CBT. I would rather not have to go on medication for this, unless I have no other options. It's just do crappy to feel like this every single day. I noticed when I wake up I feel fine.... Then as soon as I think hey! I feel ok... There come the butterflies, knot in my chest and so on.

    I really appreciate your reply and will def. look into CBT.

    Best wishes to you,

    Kay

  • Hi

    I was like you this time last year but after a few sessions of CBT I'm feeling better:)

    I also do Mindfulness.

    Now I know you said you couldn't do the breathing thing, but have a look at the websites Headspace and calm.com

    They may help:)

    Xx

  • Hi YummiMummy,

    Thanks for the reply! I can do the belly breathing, and it helps with relieving some of the tightness in my back and chest for a little bit, but not long.

    I actual saw your reply to someone else with the recommendation for those sites and looked them up, I will def. give that a try. Thank you!

    Best

  • Hope it helps x

  • Wow this is so me everything you have said I hear yoga and or a 30 min work out is good I am starting yoga next week x

  • It's like torture right? Feeling this way all the time. It's rough for me today for some reason, I feel like I can't breath. Feel like a panic attack will happen soon.

    I def. want to try doing yoga, and breathing/relaxation excercisrs! I hope they help for you too :)

    Best,

    Kay

  • friend I am 81 and its took me this long to understand . that I care to much .

    so I tort myself these WORDS , I COULD NOT CARE LESS try it for a day every thing you think, repeat I could not care less, I AM FREE FROM ANXIETY

  • Hi Yetti,

    Great advice! I need to start saying that to myself alllllll the time I think :)

    I have the ability to over think, overly care and stress about everything. I'm going to take your advice, thank you :)

    Best,

    Kay

  • thank you kay its john anxiety is a habit its a fear . you have seen the saying

    face your fear ,if you think you are going to die , then tell yourself , do your worst

    you;ll be amazed it just just go,s away you cannot think yourself dead, when anxiety

    comes welcomet try to get more anxuies you cannot face tell it do its worsed .sorry about spelling I got a problem all the best john ANXIETY CANNOT KILL YOU

  • HY KAY .john here imagine what it is like for a baby been born what it go,s thourgh

    I was reborn 10years ago and learning a new way to think . at 81 I am just leaning to live again it has been hell .as time go, you will begin to understand. keep one word in

    mind I KEEP MY FAITH

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