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When non sufferers gives their two cents.

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Is it just me or do others get ridiculously annoyed when a non sufferer gives you advice about tips and tricks about anxiety.

'Just calm down and it'll pass'

'Think happy thoughts and be positive'

'Smile'

Ok i get it to some degree but in that moment I'm thinking ' try it for a week (anxiety) and get back to me.'

The world is clueless about the severity of this disorder.

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Bbower67 profile image
Bbower67

Yes. Most people just don’t understand if they haven’t experienced it themselves. My mom always tells me to drink a cup of tea and I’ll feel better. If only it were that easy!

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Dnel82 in reply to Bbower67

Imagine that? Tea cures anxiety. The supermarkets will be flooded with sufferers.

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Jamie2018

Yeah it's frustrating. I hate being told that I worry too much and just relax there's nothing to be worried about. Do they really think we can prevent this or keep from having anxiety?

The non sufferers are the lucky ones as they just don't get it

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Dnel82 in reply to Jamie2018

Truth be told. I never want to wish harm on anyone. But it can get rather frustrating and you experience the feeling of hopelessness when those around you truly don't understand. They're under the assumption that this is something that can be brushed off and can easily be moved on from.

I wish it was that easy. That'd be awesome if that was the case. People just don't get that this is everyday for us from the moment we get up till the moment we lie down to sleep.

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Worried-help

I agree. I get that alot from people who don't know what anxiety is. They have no idea what it feels like and they can be clueless about the fact that it actually gives physical symptoms.

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Jamie2018

Or how serious it can be. Someone once got mad because I had to go to the hospital for severe anxiety which only made me feel more shitty

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Agora1 in reply to Jamie2018

Jamie, I more than understand how when people get mad at us for having anxiety, it only

makes it worse. When I was at my worse years ago, I was livid that my own daughter

called me names. The day I call the paramedics, I saw her talking with one of the guys

at the door as I was being wheeled into the van. I knew what she was telling him and I

think my b/p must have shot through the roof at that moment.

It hurts bad when people put those down when they are going through the severe symptoms

of anxiety and panic.

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Jamie2018 in reply to Agora1

Yes it does and makes you sink deeper into depression.

I found myself apologizing for any inconvenience. Imagine that

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Agora1 in reply to Jamie2018

Jamie, I can't count the number of times I have said to others "I'm sorry".

Sad isn't it??

Jamie2018 profile image
Jamie2018 in reply to Agora1

Really? And I thought I was the only one to apoligize

Agora1 profile image
Agora1 in reply to Jamie2018

I'm afraid not :(

Dnel82 profile image
Dnel82 in reply to Agora1

Truly is sad. I've found myself apologizing as well, and for something that's not intentional.

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Agora1 in reply to Dnel82

That's 3 of us Dnel and that is only the tip of the iceberg.

I would guess that most of us are very apologetic because

we all are made out of the same emotional fabric.

We are people pleasers, we wear our hearts on our sleeve, we care

about others and wonder why that care isn't given back. We give and

give hoping just for someone to say "it's going to be okay" "I'm sorry

you are struggling" or anything like that. Instead they get mad and start

putting us down.

It's not life that's being cruel but the people around us who don't understand

or care to understand. What I've used to control my emotions in these situations

is to remind myself that I cannot control what others say to me but I can control

how I react to their hurtful words. No one is worth my getting anxious and possibly

suffering for hours. No one. I've become "thick skinned" from being beaten into

the ground for so long. It no longer bothers me.

Tikirob profile image
Tikirob

Yes! Haha what gets me more is when people think you are intentionally acting anxious just to annoy them and piss them off. Which happens to be what I battle in most of my relationships with friends and family. I try to tell them hey if you think my mental health disorder pisses you off then think of how it makes me feel.

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Agora1 in reply to Tikirob

Tikirob, I like your reply to people. I've got to remember that.

Anxiousdude profile image
Anxiousdude

Yeah my favorite thing to deal with is feeling dizzy or having migraine headaches that hang around for days. Or maybe amazingly fun chest pains or all the random numbness. Yes people seriously don’t get it. There is a reason I’ve been to the er 3 times and “nothing” is wrong with me. Anxiety seriously blows and it completely screws up your life.

I once got, "What do you have to be anxious about?", from someone in my circle of friends. With friends like that, who needs enemies?

I'm always amazed at the level of insensitivity from some people.

Fuc* 'em.

Bird-67 profile image
Bird-67

I totally agree.

I always say that if I had the choice of winning the lottery or getting rid of my anxiety then it would be the latter.

Cisco123 profile image
Cisco123

That is a fact smh it’s easier said then done and half of them wouldn’t be able to handle it .

Gidget1 profile image
Gidget1

Unsolicited advice is criticism. Think about it.

I like to use: don’t “should” on me. 🙂

Yes, they do not understand,if we could be different don,t they think we would be to live a normal life.

kyoom profile image
kyoom

You are absolutely correct.

Showing empathy is more important than showing sympathy.

lorianxiety profile image
lorianxiety

they are indeed ,and treat it as in ordinary anxiety,I have only just experienced the worst of it over the past year andDr CLAire weekes book has certainly helped understand.

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