how do you do that

please how do you talk to health professionals how do you face them or make appointments let alone tell them all your life secrets

what happens how do I know which symptoms are normal and which are important how do I say the right thing because I know I might leave something out and it could change everything dramatically

ive had my buddies tell me stories about how their doctors didnt care and were really bad. what if it changes nothing and then im embarrassed and can never go back. or what if I ask for a new doctor and the old one hates me or I get them fired or something oh god

I dont want to waste my parents money (yeah iknow) or the doctors time. also what if im exaggerating and they say nothing's wrong and I feel bad about it for the rest of my life

not worrying wont help there is always a chance even a slim one of everything going wrong in every situation. and I cant live with that

please god tell me how are some of you strong enough to talk about it

please dont comment and like judge me I know im stupid and this is a weird question and im sorry. just please help me and don't say anything mean please

[Janieliza]

Firstly please may i say you are NOT stupid and nothing you have said here is weird...and never apologise for being you and having worries. Everything youve said here is completely understandable. Listening to stories of doctors that don't care is disheartening but pls let me tell you from experience that not all doctors are like this and it's few and far between. There are pros out there that are incredibly understanding and also know you going to them wasn't an easy decision. There's the stereotypical image isn't there of someone on a couch/sofa with the psych sat next to them....it's not like that. I always found it helpful to write down things you want to say. You can make a list and add to it. They are trained for a reason so they know how to help. Now, its not always immediate and it requires work from yourself. The tools are given and we do with those tools what we need to. You will find a way that suits you and the psych will absolutely support you. Speaking to a stranger seems difficult doesn't it? But actually it's easier than you think. You don't know any of us...right?. Just think about that for a few seconds....but you wrote a very honest post. It's kind of the same and I know you aren't sat in front of us and yes it can be quite alot to take in when you are faced with going somewhere in that head of ours that you really don't want to in front of a stranger. But that stranger is there to help you...keep that in mind. And they certainly aren't going to leave the room...go have a cuppa and discuss what you've just told them! What they will do is let you talk and as time goes by...you will find yourself more at ease with the doctor. It's probably nothing they haven't heard before...it's what they do and they are there to support you and support you they will. If you do happen to get one you don't gel with(it happens) then don't be afraid of saying so. Its paramount you can talk to them so they can get you the help you need so if you do feel you can't....then there are probably others you can speak to. It happened to me and I just couldn't connect...she noticed first actually and I was honest and told her I just felt uncomfortable and I didn't feel she was giving me what I needed(i didn't really know if I'm being honest what need was but there was just something amiss) and she was lovely...introduced me to different psych and I was with her for years. This is hard for you....and in most situs we find ourselves in there's a chance something could go wrong...but you know what...try and flip that thought process...and no it's not easy for me to say that bcas I've been where you are l now and I forced myself to go to that first app. I did some deep breathing, I had my list and if you still struggle. Hand the doctor the list and simply tell them you are struggling. Please believe me when I say you will be surprised and proud of yourself. And when you've been...reward yourself, I don't know what you like doing but even a pat on your back...you know?. The fear of the unknown...that's what this is. It's a scary and lonely place going out there for the first time to discuss it all. It's overwhelming...I know that. But you'll succeed. Listen if you take 1 step forward and then 3 back....it doesn't matter and it doesn't make you a failure...you are the opposite bcas you've reached out for help and it's far from easy. None of us...no one on here will judge you for anything...not one thing. You can speak as you wish to and there's so many understanding ppl here that others may have a different approach...which is great for you bcas not everything works for someone else. If you don't feel talking about it's for you either...that's also ok. Just don't beat yourself up about it. Take care. Janie

[Dubba61]

You aren't stupid space, I think a lot of us are Nervous when confronting, professionals who's opinions can impact our lives. I know I am. You don't need to tell, them every detail.

They should be trained and experienced enough to be able to tell, how you need to be helped. I think you could just write down a few details about how you feel maybe a little about why. Let them do the job that they are, very well paid for. Take slow deep breaths before you go in and remember a Doctor is just a person like you. 😊✌️🌻