Depressed and lonely

[Matilda01]

I'm so depressed right now. I was just with my friends and realized how lonely I am. I just told them and they would judge me or something. And I literally can't make friends that easily and I'm so alone at home. My family always fighting and I don't have a sister. I'm on edge of having a breakdown. I just wanna stay home all the summer and never contact anyone. So I can accept the fact that I'm going to be alone FOREVER.

[pink83737]

Hi Matilda01, I just wanted to let you know things will get better but you have to push yourself to get out there, get more involved with things and you will make friends and not feel this way. Depression makes you feel lonely along with anxiety when you are with people etc its an odd feeling but trust me it will pass and you will get through it..Im on the same boat as you i have really bad social anxiety and i hate speaking to people in person a lot of the time because I'm afraid they will judge me.

[Matilda01 in reply to pink83737]

Yeah. , I've been struggling, and now I have friends and I don't wanna let them go

[Maribee]

The reason you both give for feeling the way you do is that you fear others judging you.

You have low self-esteem.

Whether that is due to a bad abusive relationship, a parent who you felt did not give you enough support or affection, make you feel confident and worthy , there will be a reason somewhere why you feel this way.

My best advice to you, and I am now 77 years old with a lifetimes experience, is that so called friends who put you down , do t support and try to help you are NOT friends at all.

Surround yourself with people who love you and make you feel better about yourself.

If you find it difficult to make new friends join an evening class, join a rambling group...the excersise will also do you so much good.

Stop worrying about other people.....you cannot change the way they think, but you CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK.

Good luck...try to take back control of your life.xxx

[Matilda01 in reply to Maribee]

Thank you so much for your advice !!!

[Maribee]

If you want to chat I'm happy to help.