Lonely

[Meadow]

I know im not but I feel so alone sitting here writing this it feels the the rest of the world are out with loved ones enjoying themselves i have loved ones my anxiety makes it hard for me to go out I'm sorry just feeling really down and alone can't stop crying x

[Hidden]

Hi Meadow. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There are thousands of people out there who feel as you do. We make the mistake of believing what we see. The people you see as you walk down the street look quite normal, as you do to them, but you do not know what is going on inside. Cry as much as you like and do not feel that it is something abnormal. It is not. Crying can relieve tension and can often be helpful. I am a man and have cried very often over the years; nothing to be ashamed of. (Men please note). You will eventually go out with your loved ones but for the moment please ACCEPT how you feel. Not easy I know but you can only start to accept and not get tied up with your thoughts. Take deep breaths and try and relax!!! Have you anyone you can talk to? If you feel as you do get help and DO NOT think of yourself as abnormal. You are not! You are in an anxiety state, as a lot of us are, to a greater or lesser degree.The way you feel is normal in the circumstances! Your feelings are exaggerated because of your anxiety. Meadow; it will come right but it takes time. Keep your chin up my dear and blessings to you. jonathan.

[Meadow]

Thanku so much jonathan I have lovely family although my husband is not happy he is very straight laced sort of guy he cannot understand why I can not joist get up and go out he has said he doesn't know how much longer he can cope so he may leave me I'm scared but this anxiety is winning it is so much stronger than I am soon I will have nothing I fear

[rouri]

hello love, i am sorry you are upset, it did happen to me but managed to get over it. i am still down with anxiety and some sort of depression, have no close friends, my best friend is in Paris married and it is not easy to see her or phone her when i am feeling blue, which is sometimes better off as you don't want to talk about anxiety and feeling sad, you have to talk about getting better and find solution to your problem. anxiety WILL NOT WIN dismiss it when you think about it, make yourself busy in a new hobby, a new small business, job!!!! people would not understand what you are going through apart from sufferers like us, so don't blame your husband if he doesn't understand, he wouldn't and never will. discuss your anxiety in here and try to make an effort to go out more.

big big hug for you and lots of love

please do not be upset

let me know how it goes xx

[Hidden]

HiMeadow. It is very unlikely your husband will leave you. It is just that people near to us who we love and who love us feel helpless as no amount of talking or persuasion seems to make any difference. Your husband may have the misguided idea that by threatening to leave it may shock you into getting better. Do not blame him. This illness is so difficult to understand. If you had a broken leg or some physical complaint it would be easy to deal with but with nervous illness it is difficult for others to understand how you feel. Will he look at some of the blogs on this site? It may give him a better Idea of what it is about .Have you been to your GP? It may be that you need temporary medication to get you over the present situation. Do not be afraid to go as most GP's have many patients with your problem. You are in the "valley of the shadow" at the moment but (and I speak from personal experience) you WILL come out of it. Keep up the blogs. If you want help on any issue about this there are many of us to help you so do not be afraid to ask. Bless you. jonathan.

[ellabella]

Hi Meadow, I once said to a councilor that I watched couples walking down the street hand in hand and felt so sad because I was very lonely. She said to me " You don't know what may have preceded this sight? They may have fought and been violent last night and now is the making up period". I had never thought of this before. I do now. Much love xxxxxxxx

[Hidden]

Hi, It is sad how many of us in the world today are lonely. I think loneliness is a natural and healthy response to the way modern life fails to meet our need for relationships with other people. I used to teach psychology and remember what happens to monkeys when they are kept in isolation. Human beings are naturally social animals, we're not mean to be alone much of the time. I know that for many people, including me, our social instincts and abilities have been damaged by experiences earlier in life and the realities of modern life mean that we continue to be alone too much of the time. I think that's why we turn to this website, in order to feel connected to people, to feel loved, wanted, needed. It's a sad society we live in.

[Hidden]

Hi secondhandrose. Yes indeed, it is a sad society. When I was young good deeds were commonplace now they seem to be rare. Occasionally one comes across an act of real kindness and it restores ones faith in humanity. Then you watch the news on TV and...well, you know! Loneliness is an awful business when one is in an anxiety state, and this is why sites like this are so important. To be able to share with people who understand is a therapy in itself. How are you doing, Meadow? Do not be afraid to put down here how you feel. It will help and the replies you get are from people who KNOW, so be assured it is good advice. This "thing" you talk about is NOT stronger than you. You may think it is but that is an illusion. YOU have the courage to come through this but it takes time. Take it all one day at a time. Do not force yourself to make progress. Just let it come of its own accord by not fighting it. Bless you and keep writing, if you feel the need. jonathan.

[Pickle165]

HI, i know how you feel, i get really lonely and lost some days. i miss the times in the past when i used to go out with friends and work and enjoy life. i feel so isolated now. i try and tell myself that things could be worse and that i could be fighting in war or starving in third world countries so i do try and think about those people when ever i get low. x