I don't want to lose my husband

I love my husband but he wants me to stop my pills. He was screaming at me this morning. He told me my kids don't want me. What am I supposed to do? Can't stop crying what should I do? He wants to leave me.

[b1b1b1]

You have been given all the suggestions to deal with your anxiety and fear, but you must understand that YOU are the only one who can help yourself. I don't mean to be cruel, but that is just the way it is. I hope you will choose a course of action that will lead to better things for you.

[centralhawk3]

Hi there,

What caused him to say that your kids don't want you? Is this a reaction to him perhaps feeling resentful towards you and your condition?

What pills are you currently taking?

[Lostjoy]

Hi Trees2357,

Today is Sunday. Are you going to church? Can you talk to your Pastor about this?

Does your husband go to church with you? Lots of times a Pastor will help couples who are having trouble. If you can get your husband to go with you that might be a start.

Sorry you are struggling with all of these issues.

[Hidden in reply to Lostjoy]

Thank you. No he doesn't go to church. I'm going if I can get a ride. He won't let me drive.

[centralhawk3 in reply to Hidden]

Why won't he let you drive?

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

He is being very abusive. I understand! Mine doesn’t believe in meds either. He just drinks himself to death. Much more manly I guess. Perhaps if he wasn’t being so abusive you would not need pills as much. I can’t do it alone either. I just don’t discuss it with him. Are you sure there is not another reason he wants to leave? He sounds guilty. I can assure you your children need their mother. That much anger is very crazy. Perhaps he feels it’s his fault which questions his manhood. Either way you don’t deserve that.

[b1b1b1]

Try not to allow your husband to control your life. It doesn't matter that he doesn't believe in medicine, therapy or psychiatrists. You have to try to make your own decisions and do what is best for you.

[centralhawk3]

Are you saying that if the situation was reversed you wouldn't treat him the way that he is treating you? I think that would suggest that he is being controlling. Has his behaviour got worse over time?

[Hidden in reply to centralhawk3]

He just doesn't talk to me.

[Hidden]

You know what your right. I do have to make my own decisions but I'm always afraid I'll be wrong.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell in reply to Hidden]

Anytime you choose to get medical treatment for an illness you are right! Never wrong! You do NOT deserve to be abused for doing so. Trust me I know the hurt and disappointment. You have to trust yourself and do what’s best for you. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Do not ignore your health though! That’s most important. He does not know how you hurt. So he can’t make those decisions.