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Older brother checking my arms

I never understood why the only place people check for selfharm are the wrist and arms and never the legs and thighs. My brothers and mom were happy i didn't have no new cuts on my arms yesterday and i wanted to come clean and show them the new place where i started again but i couldn't ruin their happiness i don't know if i want to come clean anymore

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SweetSymphony I think you need to come clean with your brothers and mom. After all this isn't about ruining their happiness, this is about keeping you Safe. They would be devastated if something happened to you and would blame themselves for not checking you more closely. Don't put them in that position. You need their help and support. It is vital to your physical and emotional stability. Not even people who love us can totally understand the complexity of self harm. Be open and honest with them to relieve that burden you are now carrying. I care deeply. xx

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I don't know if i should. I might tell them next time they check again

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I night feel worse after i show them thats why i think its not a good idea to do that

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No pressure.. just stay safe and use the forum. xx

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I think because they think the only place people self harm is where it is visible.. I myself have been there and have self harmed in multiple locations on my body but people always used to do the same. I’m currently in a dark place now but haven’t gone back to self harming. Please seek help and if you don’t want to tell them then please speak to someone that you can trust x

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I want to tell them i just think it might ruin everything

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Then please tell them. They might be cross for a little while but I’m sure they will be there to support you and help you. Sometimes you can’t do it alone and need the support of your family. Just take your time and ask them for their help x

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