Scared

[Karenann123]

I have such horrible anxiety right now I don't know what to do, my daughter is having surgery on Wednesday a hysterectomy and my spouse has surgery on Thursday for his back, in my anxiety mode I have them both not waking up and having allot of trouble to stay positive, I am this bad now am scared what I will be like by Wednesday

[Janieliza]

Take a moment...yes just a moment to breathe. A really deep breath. There is such alot happening for you that there's little wonder your anxiety has increased. Also rational thinking also goes out of the window doesn't it? What you could please try is taking that deep breath and holding just one positive thought. Just one for now. Rather than not waking up(As soon as that comes...take the breath and concentrate on counting...count loudly in your head..or out loud) then think how their quality of life may change when they do wake up. All the pain they've been in etc. The deep breathing is therapeutic and anytime you feel anxious breath in thro your nose(mouth closed) 1...2...3...4 and out thro your mouth...5..6...7...8. Repeat until you begin to feel calmer. Once you do...try the rational thinking...its so hard I know..ohh gosh I know it is but it is possible. You will probably be busy busy busy following their operations and this can actually help. If you start to feel anxious...come here and write write write. Someone will be here im sure. The supports here for you. I wish you all the best. Take care. Janie

[Karenann123 in reply to Janieliza]

Thank you , I am really going to try

[Indigojoe]

Karenann,

I become horibly panicked when faced with a situation like you are in too.

I learned this belief system in my home as a small child.

you gave me a lovely insight as to where my anxietys start in your sentence , I" I have them both not waking"

, So the scary thought dominates..........I wonder why we cant let a positive thought have more weight than the scary negative ones?

WHAT IF, you picture them waking feeling great with ZERO problems coming out of anesthesia?

You are not alone in this, and I wish I had a fix for you.

and from my experience, on WEdnesday, you will rally and find your strength.

A mothers love for her daughter, can triumph over her own fears I think........yes?

GOOD luck to all.

[Karenann123 in reply to Indigojoe]

Thank you, I want this week over with so badly, each day though I feel more anxious can tell myself each day everything will be fine , But how do I get myself to believe it

[Indigojoe in reply to Karenann123]

Karenann123,

I suffer and have suffered what sounds to me like similar anxieties to your's.

( personal story: last January I was summoned to court. I could NOT get a grip that I would have to testify against someone who stole my computer. I was in the right. But, I FROZE when I got the pink summons. In that moment, I had every anxiety symptom we read here that folks get.

I flipped out, and I was NOT going to be able to go. I begged my doc for xanax, I took amino acids, meditation, mindfulness tapes, etc... I had someone take me. IT Felt AWFUL..........until the moment I walked into the building and then I was FINE.............) you will find your strength. Take someone with you.

Wednesday will come and go like any other day. Your mission is to say, over and over and over and over, " Everything is going to be ok"

In this forum there is a strong theme to ACCEPT how you feel. UTTER ACCEPTANCE. you feel how you feel, and the feelings themselves are not dangerous.

Do your best to TRUST that you will be able to handle whatever happens. You will.

keep us posted.