Christmas party bust!

[Wyominganxiety]

Well was at my fiance Christmas party for a whole 5 min was trying to breath and relax he told me I should just have my friend come get me before I have a melt down.. I feel like I wasn't even wanted and I was an embarrassment to him... feel like taking my nice curled hair and dressy clothes right to bed and crying myself to sleep

[b1b1b1]

Would a tranquilizer have helped? Maybe next time, although you would have to remember to drink perrier or other non-alcoholic beverages.

[Wyominganxiety in reply to b1b1b1]

I took half valium just wasn't ready I guess.

[b1b1b1 in reply to Wyominganxiety]

Depending on the strength of the valium one half sounds like a very small dose. More might have helped, but doublecheck with the doctor.

[Wyominganxiety in reply to b1b1b1]

It is a very small dose 2.5 mg but I'm a light weight with meds

[HearYou in reply to Wyominganxiety]

Did you mean a .25 Xanax? A 2.5 mg Xanax would have chilled out a Doberman Pinscher. A .25 Xanax isn't enough to calm a mouse in a "break through" situation.

But let it go. Unless you are taking Xanax on a regular basis, I don't think a "break through" dose would have help your nervous system.

This was just a company party; so you felt "ill" and had to go home. people understand that.

Enjoy how you looked in your party clothes and beautiful hair. It took a great deal for you to control your anxiety while getting dressed for this party. That was an accomplishment. And keep them on if you want to go to sleep that way, like a princess. Really hope you got a photo before you left for the party.

This has happened to me before. So I started some gradual exposure to places where there were people. It did help.

Your man loves you; I cannot believe he was embarrassed. He was taking care of you when he suggested that you go home with a friend when he realised your panic. Due to "Office Politics", he had to stay for an appropriate amount of time so the "right" people saw him and maybe chatted with him.

You're a good,lovely woman with a good, caring man who understands you. Sometimes you get the bear, and sometimes the bear gets you. The two of you knew how to deal when the bear got too close tonight. That is a comfort and blessing. There was something very lovely about that.xx

[Agora1]

wyominganxiety, I'm so sorry it didn't work out. You "tried" and that's what counts. It is still not a failure in my eyes. Don't come down hard on yourself. We know what it's like and don't think anything less of you. Wipe your tears, put on your comfy pjs and robe and make yourself a hot cup of something to soothe you. Breathe deeply and forget the evening. Relax now... xx

[Wyominganxiety in reply to Agora1]

I just feel like I wasn't allowed to even try I dk if he meant for it to come across like it did but he was so worried about me having issues I felt he was embarrassed of me

[Agora1 in reply to Wyominganxiety]

I'm sure that is how it felt to you. But it might have been the state you were in that made you feel that way. We need comfort and reassurance whenever we start coming unglued. Anything short of that just pushed us further off the edge and I think that's what happened. You felt it was an insult, an embarrassment which made you come apart.

Now that you're home, put yourself together. You can't change what happened. I'm still proud of you for going. You just weren't ready this time. There are times I have pushed myself to go somewhere and have learned that there are times that I know my own body well enough to accept that I need to bow out.

You tried so hard to please him when your mind was telling you differently. Not your fault. Sending you a hug. Feel better. xx

[Wyominganxiety in reply to Agora1]

Thank you

[Hidden]

I think your partner could have been more supportive of you. I’m sorry you went thru that. Hope things get better for you.

[HearYou in reply to Hidden]

Think he was supportive in his own way. He got her out of a situation gracefully by having her call for help getting home.

Have not read anything about what he could have done otherwise to ease her panic attack without drama or her feeling more embarrassed.

My husband understands if I am somewhere with him and my anxiety puts the pedal to the metal, that he needs to help remove me from the situation without discussion. I used to feel I was embarrassing him; I know better now.

We've talked about this, and always have an exit plan or a time limit, etc. before we attend any function or business event. Just knowing that makes some parties more than just tolerable for me.

It's different for every couple and every event.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I don’t think he was embarrassed. You never did anything to embarrass him. I think if he saw that you were uncomfortable and gave you an out he may have been protecting you. He loves you doesn’t he? I would hate to see my loved ones suffer! Sometimes it can be made easier by the way we perceive things or choose to perceive things. I live in never never land and it’s lovely. I am so proud that you went. You put forth the effort. Then you got an out. Get that friend to take you home. Get a drink, some candles and s bubble bath and be happy. The hard parts over. Then put on your cutest npajamas since you’re already dolled up. Cuddle up with a good book and relax! I love that plan. Don’t overthink this. Lol. We have anxiety that’s what we do duh. Take it for what it is. Him protecting you from being uncomfortable. Sounds like a knight in shining armor. You can live in my fairytale with me! That’s stupid I know but that’s how I cope. I block it out. Everything. I have an imaginary world in my head I visualize going to when I get overwhelmed. I need to name it. If anyone has any suggestions I’m

Open to them.

[Wyominganxiety]

Thanks everybody I am ok I talked with my love and I told him how I took it and he assured me he is never embarrassed just trying to protect me my anxiety made me over think is all

[Jeff1943]

Maybe your bloke should have offered reassurance rather than suggesting you leave because you were feeling anxious at his company party - but it was successful in one respect: you actually went to the party and that's important. Maybe more communications with him will make it easier for you to attend social events. But don't think it was all failure as you DID make the effort and attended.

[Daniellesparkles]

At least you tried ! I congratulate you that took guts and courage ! 💕

[Wyominganxiety in reply to Daniellesparkles]

Thank you

[Hardluck]

If there’s one thing I’m guilty of is pre-determining how shitty I’m going to feel during certain circumstances. I’ve realized this is a waste of time and energy. This was a minor set back for you. Good luck in the future.