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Sorry Guys for tmi, this post is for the ladies. I feel terrible. My mood is AWFUL, I feel so down, depressed, sad, unhappy, and SCARED AND WORRIED. My health anxiety is thru the roof!! I'm on Day 3 of my cycle and I'm not sure if that has anything to do with the way I'm feeling. Anxiety is telling me that there is something wrong and that it is not my cycle. Idk what to do or how to come out of this terrible mood and these terrible feelings and thoughts. Anyone understand what I'm going thru????? I feel like it's only me....

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It is not just you. I'm so sorry to hear you feel this awful, but strangely relieved to know I'm not alone so it is probably not as dangerous as it feels. I'm on day 2 & the pain in my left arm & shoulder along with terrible headache, jaw pain, facial numbness, dizziness, foginess, and back spasms has me convinced a heart attack or stroke will happen any minute. I work at a hospital & almost walked to the ER so many times today 😞.

Have you found anything to bring relief?

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

Wow I'm sorry you're going thru this too smh.. its debilitating and tiring.. I have convinced myself of throat or thyroid cancer because of a strange sensation in the bottom of my throat (base of my neck area) and pains now in my chin area as well smh the throat sensations have been there for about 4 months, stopped when I was put on a medication for acid reflux damage but came right back immediately after stopping the medication smh and the fear is so intense right now that I can't function or think about anything else but cancer smh im so depressed today smh no I haven't found any relief at all. Have you??

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

Praying & focusing on the fact that I've survived every other similar episode helps the most. Ice, heat, and an occasional beer help some, but all medication scares me, so I'd rather feel this way than get a prescription.

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

I agree, I'm afraid of medications too and choose to feel like shit instead 😩How crazy is that 🙄I know every other time Ive been wrong when I've feared I had other diseases but this time "it always feels like but this time" it's like "what if I'm right this time" smh like damn I can't win for losing smh

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

The throat thing is probably muscle tension from the stress & worry. Mine even affects my voice. Have you been tested for sleep apnea or TMJ?

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

Whats tmj? And no I haven't been tested for sleep apnea.

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

TMJ is the jaw joint near your ear. It can be dysfunctional from overuse, teeth grinding, etc. when it's inflamed, you get Jaw, face, ear, head, and even neck pain. It's amazing how many of us have issues & how many problems it can cause.

Apnea is also a major cause of issues. Coupled with lack of restful sleep, it's a real doozy.

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

My orthodontist told me that I grind my teeth and sometimes I wake up suddenly and find myself grinding my teeth... 🤔... that's interesting.. maybe I will be tested for that because I've been having a little slight ear pain too in both ears from time to time, nothing serious but a very light pain. But Ive been thinking its related to throat cancer because that's what google said

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

Google says lots of things..... Check SCM too. It's a muscle that runs in your neck/chest area. Or Herpes or Mono or even arthritis. I've spent plenty of time there too 😞

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

But I have no throat pain that's the thing. No pain swallowing

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

Have they looked at your esophagus to verify reflux?

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

I had chest X-rays a couple months ago but idk if you can see the esophagus that way. But every time I feel that weird feeling/pain in my throat, I always belch within a few min after I feel it.. I told the Dr that and she said it sounds like acid reflux, sometimes I feel a burning sensation in the same exact spot and sometimes I do burp fluid and it it goes right back down, so idk.. and I also have post nasal drip

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

My ENT wanted me to take acid reducers, but I insisted on a gastro eval first..... none of those for me! My pharmacist made me worry, so I'm glad I didn't jump on them.

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

Yea I understand that, but I've been having heart burn for a while now, years, and it started bothering after having my daughter and then I started taking apple cider vinegar without diluting it like a crazy person and burned my damn insides 😩My chest was hurting at first because of it and I was convinced it was angina smh and I had X-rays and they saw nothing smh and told me to not ever take apple cider vinegar again without diluting it because it can cause burns and permanent damage smh I'm just all the way done with myself tonight I can't deal

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

Do you ever try lemon water or lemon & honey? I've had it recommended, but it makes my chest jumpy:

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Navygal in reply to RyRywifey

Have your doctor order you a wedge pillow. My brother in law has acid reflux and it has helped him tremendously. .

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RyRywifey in reply to Navygal

A wedge pillow?! It has to be a Drs order?? I will look into that, what does it do to help?

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Navygal in reply to RyRywifey

You could buy it yourself but I would recommend that you have a doctor order it for you. Your insurance will probably give you a really nice wedge pillow. The way they help is with acid reflux, your upper body is higher with the pillow so that acid doesn't move up. I have one because I have allergies and serious sinus drainage and I would cough all night. With the pillow I don't cough anymore. If you have a family doctor, you could probably call their office and ask for one.

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Teerings3 in reply to loglegmomma

I fight health anxiety also. The last 4 weeks have been very hard, and you know for the prior few months I was feeling and doing so darn good I got scared. Then my tooth, head,ear, and throats started hurting on the left side of my face. I went to the dentis 3 weeks ago, and he sent me to a gum specialist. At the gum specialist he found something on the right side of my mouth and wanted to do a biobsy and pull the tooth above the area. He said nothing was wrong with the tooth I said was hurting on the left side. He then gave me some laughing gas, and I freaked out and ran!! On my way home I put my oxi-heart monitor on my finger and freaked out more because my oxegon was in the 60s. I proceeded to hypervintalte before I realized that the 60s number was my heart rate and my oxegon was 98!!! I laughed my self completely out of panic mode! Honestly when I got home I looked and read everything I could on oral cancer, and scheduled my biopsy for next Monday with someone else. The only problem was the left side of my face and throat was killing me. I went to anther dentist who also said nothing is wrong with my tooth, but he referred me to a specialist for the next day. Long story short, ok a little shorter, the tooth had a hairline crack and when he opened it up for a root canal was very badly infected in the tooth. Now I'm feeling so much better, still very anxious over biopsy, I don't like that medicine they use to deaden the area because it has epinephrine in it and it makes my heart race. We all know what a racing heart triggers for us!' So anyway what works for me is giving up!! You know I believe that Gods got that part and I need to let him have it!!' You how many times something has happened and God put the right people or just the right time and place so I made it through! I am not saying I might not die, and I'm not saying I want to die, I'm just saying I don't have time to worry about it anymore. I'm going to let God take care of when it is my time, and every time I have those intrusive thoughts I close my eyes and picture me throwing everything a Gods feet. Then I either start doing something else, like now. I was feeling a little weird so I turned off the TV turned of the lights and got on here to read and write. I need to let go of trying to control the things I can't control, and work on the things I can, like what I choose to do when I start having panic or anxiety with all these intrusive thoughts.

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Navygal in reply to loglegmomma

I wish I could remember the name but your doctor may know. Its an anti-depressant and helps with PMS. I was on it for a long time but eventually your body will adjust. It definitely gave me relief for 3-4 years.

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Yellowmellow in reply to loglegmomma

Boy o have this..it is real and scared..my chest hurts my arms pain stabbing in back. I'm scared and just trying to show a good face. I to wonder if it's a sign of something serious.

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loglegmomma in reply to Yellowmellow

Have you seen any doctors?

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Icanbeathis2016

Trust its not only you. Today i had it bad. My health anxiety has somehow convinced me of breast cancer because my breat are tender and swollen a little (guess why, menustral is due in about 8 or 9 days) which i always have this pms syptoms so i dont know why this particular time my thoughts are going this bad and all yesterday and today i was on google (should know better that this by now) looking up breast cancer symtoms. Now i cannot get these thoughts off my mind. And im freaked out, scared, and worried.And my cycle isnt even on yet. But im getting other wierd syptoms too though that got me worried its something more like the sharp pains in muscles ,headaches , soreness in wierd spots on my body, eye floaters, unbalanced feeling. So i understand completely. I hope the best for us.

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Girl I feel you completely! I've been googling too and I'm completely convinced of my message right above this one smh my hubby keeps telling me I have health anxiety and a crazy fear of disease but I can't except that. I feel like I wouldn't feel this way if something weren't truly wrong smh

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to RyRywifey

Yep thats my thoughts too. I also argue that yes our thoughts may be considered irrational and intrusive to those who dont know what anxiety can do to you. But I counter that by saying it may be irrational but ita definitely possible to happen though. I can see if we have itrusive thoughts mostly about things that have never happened in human history or we were making up new illnesses in our mind but the thoughts we are fighting with are all possible and happens to many people all over the world. So dont try and tell us we are overreacting in the mind. Thats my comeback. But yes they are right too though😅😒 its still very tiring like you said and it makes you feel defeated and discouraged. But yes i read that same thing that pain is not usually associated with it but my actual scare is from feeling the breast tissues which make me think it could be a lump or something. Smh.

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Omg you sound just like me, lol I'm always saying this is irrational, then I'll randomly come across someone it happened to and be scared shitless and think no I'm not trippin maybe it's happening to me too and I'm having early symptoms or late stage symptoms smh And about the breast tissue smh I have felt the exact same way. Do you get really nervous about Drs visits?? I had to take my baby to the dentist yesterday and I was even afraid about what would happen then and it actually turned out to be a great visit. And when I have these symptoms and I take myself to a walkin (because I can't stand the wait for appts) I freak out and get so afraid that I'm about to hear the worse news ever. Now I have a fear of going to the Dr period. But I still feel like I have to go. Then when I go I become embarrassed of telling all of my symptoms and looking crazy or afraid of them finding something, it's like my mind is a crazy house smh I probably sound so annoying and confusing I'm sorry smh

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

The problem is when you feel like they've stopped listening, so all you can think is that you'll have to drop dead before they take you seriously :-(.

I've had normal stress test & echo, so that documentation from my cardiologist has the ER thinking anxiety. His PA finally suggested POTS & sent me to an autonomic neurologist. I feel better knowing someone without access to those records. I'm hoping a fresh set of eyes will help.

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to RyRywifey

Girl me too. The moment i go to hearing about someone else with these particular ilnesses that automatically makes me think its gonna happen to me. And yes gping to any doctors have become worse to me too. Its like if i dont go I'll go insane in the membrane about my intrusive thoughts and i want closure but when i go im scared out my damn mind of the results in fear ill get bad news so while im there ill be wishing i never came but if i dont go ill be wishing i went. Lol. Sounds quite psycho dont it 😂 but its real. So yes having appt are the worst. I was scared for my daughters too the other day they both had dentist appointmens and the whole time im in my mind thinking all kinds of thoughts. Plus that day i went my anxiety was actually through the roof. I dont even know how i got through that day. I was so close to going to the er. Smh

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loglegmomma in reply to Icanbeathis2016

I feel you! When they say everything is fine, you are supposed to be happy, but I usually am sad because that means two things: 1. They think it's mental. 2. You can't develop a treatment plan.

When they found a torn biceps tendon, I was actually excited. I almost hugged the doctor! But, I'm afraid of the surgery :-(

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Wow it's hella crazy to hear someone feel exactly the same as me, because I swear when I'm going thru these things it feels like it's only me!!! I've been trying my best to make sure my daughter doesn't learn this behavior from me. I wouldn't wish this on anybody!!!! I'm literally exhausted sometimes from all the worrying I do smh it's crazy insane. And it's crazy how you said you'll go insane if you don't go to the Dr but when you do go you dread the news you THOUGHT u we're gonna get. That's me!! Then I'll feel relief when I leave and didn't hear that news, then I'm worried they are missing something or it's on to another disease a short time later smh like wtf and you believe your thoughts so much it's like there's no way this is anxiety, this time I think I'm right about this, it's a never ending circle smh

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to RyRywifey

😂 yes this is so me. Even like now. Since ive convinced myself of this i feel like what if thr dr missed this and its too late when i find out its gonna be far to late to treat. This is terrible living. 😂 and yes me too. I try so much to put happy and positive thoughts in my kids head because i do not want them to go through this. And my oldest daughter is 16 and i can talk with her to help her understand what i go through but i try my best to pretend to be positive minded to her so she dont learn this either. And my poor 6 year old she already remind me of me with how she always get sad about every little thing that doesnt go her way like shes a baby pessimist like how i am. Smh. And im trying to break her out of this right now. Smh. Never ending. Girl yes that last time i went to the er praying to get a ct scan cuz my thoughts had got the best of me and the whole time i was there i was panicing so bad i couldn't stop shaking and trembling and the whole time i was wishing i never came. I even almost walked out. Lol. I was so nervous to hear the results and when the doc walked in and said everything was negative. Girl dont you know immediately when he said that it was as if someone pulled the plug on a jack hammer. That how quickly my nerves had released and calmed down. 😂 and not even two days later i was back to thinking about something else bad. This should be a movie. Lol.

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Omg!!!! My 8 yr old reminds me of myself too and I worry about it but I don't show her that it concerns me because I don't want to bring it to her attention. But she had a toothache and was so worried about why it was hurting but wasn't sure why she was worried 😩 she was so anxious to get to the dentist and was so happy when it was over, just like me 😩. I try to pretend so much that I don't have the thoughts I have about myself and try to be so upbeat in front of her but sometimes my thoughts get the best of me and she can see I'm worried and when I worry too much I get snappy with everybody because all I want to do is focus on the disease I have convinced myself of 😂😩or I get depressed because I think it's too late to treat and what's the point of anything at all smh girl this is crazy I can't deal lol how is it that we're going thru this shit?? Is yours worse around your cycle and or ovulation?? And moderate at other times? Or it is the same all the time?? With new diseases mine is haywire until a Dr visit and negative tests smh sometimes it's worse around my cycle and ovulation. And don't let me come across something someone else has or has passed away from, I totally convince myself I have that too smh and I get so envious of people that are just so happy and Normal everyday, I used to be that way too and now I'm all screwed up smh

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

I do notice it worse around my cycle. I skipped 3 months & was so excited to think I'd hit menopause, but nope.... back with PMS worse than ever!!! You'd think at 48--36 years of periods--I'd be used to this by now :-(

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

Lol you may be close to it tho because you skipped 3 months, my mom skipped months and would get hers again on and off before they stopped altogether, I'm 30 so I think I have a while to go lol I really hope I get this anxiety under control because my cycles makes it 1000x worse smh

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

Have you tried birth control or other hormone treatments?

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

No I haven't tried lemon water, but I will try that, and birth control I'm afraid of, I'd rather have my cycle and suffer lol I guess I'm crazy lol

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to RyRywifey

Lol. I am pretending most od my days too. Just to keep a smile on my face in front of my daughters. Especially my little one. My oldest is old enough to understand what im going though but i am constantly having positive talks to keep her mind away from what im experiencing. But i cant say if its worse during the weeks leading up to my menustral i do seem to be worse off and ofcourse when i began to notice it i googled pms and stuff which it says it can cause anxiety or whatever. And yes im even starting to think during ovulation i get extra anxiety too. I do journal so i think i do go through worse during these times. What about you? Like i always say, i literally only have five days out of the month where i feel close to normal or hardly any issues but the other 26 days are turmoil for me.

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loglegmomma in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Sad but true. I'm sorry you feel that way.... do you ever have a deep itchy feeling in your arms & chest?

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to loglegmomma

Well i cant remeber if i had the itchy feeling in my arms but i do recall a few times of experiencing bad itching on my back and upper chest area near my neck. And i thought i was having some type of skin illness cuz that had never happened before.

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

And FYI, I feared breast cancer during one of my cycles a while back because of sharp breast pains and I actually read that pain is not usually associated with breast cancer, just so you know 😌

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RyRywifey in reply to Icanbeathis2016

I'm sure you don't have that and it's those damn hormones 😖

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loglegmomma in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Any relief?

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to loglegmomma

Well only relief is me dealing with the kids and being distracted from cooking dinner so it helped get my mind off of the thoughts some. So it definitely helps to be distracted. What about you?

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loglegmomma in reply to Icanbeathis2016

Staying busy... Driving can get hard when I feel foggy, but work is a great distraction. Working at a hospital helps me feel safer knowing I'm not far from help if needed.

On really bad days, I journal how I'm feeling & my assistant knows I keep that in my drawer. I tell her when I'm having an off day & tell her I'll spare the details, but if I'm passed out, please look at my notepad.

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to loglegmomma

Lol. Yes i agree. I jornal too. It does help he in my bad days cuz ill go back and look at all the syptoms i get and see thats its basically all the same things. So i feel a tad better. It has been times im in tunnel vision so bad even when driving i often wonder how i got to my destination safely. Smh. But distraction helps 80 percent to me which is a great percent. If i work in a hospital theyd probably fire me for going in some much as a patient

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loglegmomma in reply to Icanbeathis2016

HIPAA protects my privacy, but having that many coworkers see me naked can get a little awkward 😂

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Icanbeathis2016 in reply to loglegmomma

Lol.Yeah they get to see ypur birthday suit by accident.

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

I used to be a PCNA at Cleveland Clinic 2-3 years ago and I didn't have this problem (health anxiety) then, it's crazy that I'm like this now smh. I was so happy and carefree back then. I'm a stylist and braiding hair does distract me, I also homeschool my daughter and I love it and that distracts me too but when I'm all done and she's in the bed for the night, I'm alone with my thoughts and it makes me so bad to the point all I do is worry worry worry

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GMason

Can I suggest a few things for your acid reflux?

I have had this for years and it can cause terrible pain which can feel like other serious things.

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GMason

1) drink kefir daily

2) pro biotic yoghurts daily

3) drink 2l water daily

4) cut out processed foods

5) cut out gluten

All this will help :)

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RyRywifey in reply to GMason

Thank you so much!!! I will keep this in mind!! I will try all of these, I'm vegan so I do not eat processed food. But I haven't tried going gluten free. Is kefir yogurt? I do not eat intake any animal products at all but I will try to see if I can follow these daily the vegan way 💕🌸❤️Thank you!!

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GMason in reply to RyRywifey

Hey no problem :-)

I'm a veggie so I understand :-)

Kefir is a milk drink that is very high in probiotics, but if you can find it you can get coconut and water versions which have no dairy

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GMason in reply to RyRywifey

You can also get pro biotic vegan yoghurts too that are soya :-)

You can also get probiotics from sauerkraut if you can find natural stuff, all helpful for the tummy :)

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GMason in reply to RyRywifey

Gluten free is very helpful for reflux issues as gluten is hard to digest and many people are undiagnosed gluten intolerant which can cause tummy problems, been battling all these myself, hope some of it is helpful :)

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loglegmomma

Are you feeling better yet?

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RyRywifey in reply to loglegmomma

Hey, I'm feeling a tiny bit better but still having some major health anxiety about the same things smh but not as bad as yesterday. Thank you for checking up on me 😌 How are you feeling??

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loglegmomma in reply to RyRywifey

I'm glad you are a little better. Similar for me.... still terrible arm pain & dizziness, which are quite disconcerting, but I lived through yesterday, so there's hope for tomorrow.

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