Divorce after 25 years

[capedlitigator]

After being with my wife since high school we divorced this week. The financial and emotional cost is high, and the loneliness is the worst. Can anyone offer kind words?

[Mandy950411]

I'm so sorry to here this 25 years is a very long time and will be very upsetting for you but talking to people will help or even if you have a hobby to take your mind off things bless in time the pain you feel will go away which will probably feel like forever to you but u will heal and get through this xxx

[LouA2016]

Spend time with family and friends. Create an 'adventure' vision board or list and fill it with all the things that you would love to do during the next 12 months then start! Tick each one off as you go. It'll keep you busy, you'll meet new people, you make new friends and you will begin to create new memories. I think the memories created during relationships make the heartbreak all the harder so it's good to begin to make your OWN new memories now. In time those old memories will not cause pain but will create a smile with the knowledge that you survived the breakup and you grew from it. The hurt will fade in time x

[Agora1]

capedlitigator, "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending"

"Life's not about waiting for the storms to pass.... It's about learning to Dance in the Rain"

I'm glad you found this forum. Come back to it anytime you need a friend...

[capedlitigator]

Thank you all for the encouraging words!

[philly101]

I am very sorry. I was never married however I had a child with my girlfriend who I loved dearly. Unfortunately it didn't work out. I am not sure if you have any kids or not. But going through the court process and it has been nothing but stress so I feel your pain. The financial burden and emotional burden is high. Try and find things that make you happy. Try and pick up a hobby. Go out with friends and socialize. Don't stay cooped up in your mind as its counterproductive. Maybe start golfing? Make it a hobby and stick to it, as a routine thing or weekly thing. Just a suggestion. Finally you won't find the answer at the end of a bottle (alcohol). I've tried that and it only led to my anxiety and panic attacks.

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Best be alone than wish you were.