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Petrified of starting new job tmr can anyone suggest anything?

Hello. I'm new to this site am due to start a new job tmr it's 11 am and I feel sick with fear I'm crying and just feel dread. I've had anxiety for years and it's really affected my ability to work I've left jobs and had many offers which I didn't start. That's not helping as I've been here before no matter how much I want to get back to work I just can't get myself through the door on the first day and then I spiral as I feel awful about letting people down. I've been out of work for 6 months so frankly I need the money and I know work would be goodelighted for my mental health I spend 90 per cent of my time alone at home hardly a good thing. I feel ridiculous and desperate. Sorry this is a ramble. I'd really appreciate anything anyone might suggest.

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hi,hope all goes well,take deep breaths ,Ive suffered with anxiety so know exactly how your feeling ,when I have to face something new I now let on I'm nervous ,I think you will find people are more accepting today. take your time

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Thank you so much for taking time to reply to me..that's a good tip actually I work hard to cover my nerves I've never spoken out about how I feel but I could be using my energy in a better way. Thank you. Have a lovely day.

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hi hope it helps, ive got an appointment today ,I'm dreading it,im trying to keep calm,but if it gets to much I will let on how nervous I am,i find if people are nice it helps me to relax, ive tried for years to cover up how bad I am, think as ive got older it doesn't seem to matter as much.

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Force yourself to do it and stay there, stop pandering to the weaker side of your personality. You are stronger than you think, get angry not scared.

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I hope your day goes well. I'm so glad I found this site today ! I I googled out of desperation. I've decided to attempt some excersise as that sometimes helps and then maybe a walk later if I can. Thank you for your help. Take care

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yeno what I was like that on my first job last week but yeno what? all my symptoms went because I was working.. some things your scared of are good for you

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Thanks so much for taking time reply everyone. I know I need to face the fear I just couldn't see me doing it earlier. I'm feeling better now kept busy today and did some intense excersise which really helped. Hopefully I will get some sleep tonight and be ready to try my best tmr. Being able to speak out and hearing back really helped me I was loosing it this morning.

Take care all

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I too was like that , but one day decided no one is going to take care of me but me so I went to work don't get me wrong that was a hard day but when it was over I was glad I had earned a dollar and convinced my self you gotta go tomorrow and I did.

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Good stiff whiskey straight down will calm the nerves.

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You can do it. Our anxiety magnifies everything. It will be much better than your anxiety is trying to tell you. Focus on something other than your anxiety. If you need a tactical retreat, go to the washroom.

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I know EXACTLY how you're feeling. If you still look on here, how did your first day go? I start a new job tomorrow with severe anxiety and constant physical symptoms. I am terrified I will fail, or have to leave early due to panic. I'm petrified of letting anyone around me down, especially myself. I know how you feel, you are not alone xx

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How did you get on Rach? I’m starting a new job today & am the same, have anxiety but worse than that is the physical anxiety!

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Good luck for tomorrow. They obviously have confidence in you to have hired you so please have confidence in yourself.

Shall be thinking of you and it would be great to know how you got on.

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Hi all, I have to say I haven't been on here much of late but saw another couple of posts on this subject which lead me back. Hannah and Rach, I hope you got on OK?

Well, I did get there on my first day although it wasn't pretty (I was going then not going for some time early in the morning.) And it wasn;t as bad as I thought once I was there I was busy and couldn't really panic as I was so focused.

Unfortunately though I didn;t work out my boss was on leave when I started and the other people there just sort of threw a load of stuff at me and I freaked out. I only made it 4 days. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I now see SO clearly that I should have spoken out and said I am overwhelmed and they would have helped. But at the time I thought, I can;t do that they will see me as weak and useless. Which I now see is ridiculous! I could do the job I just needed a better induction and to get settled. I think if the person who recruited me had been there I would have been OK.

I am pretty cross with myself reading this back now, seeing I posted 7 months ago. Imagine if I had spoken up? I'd be settled by now and enjoying it not to mention the money. This has happened many times for me and each time I feel worse and it send me into a spin.

So, I wanted to say if you feel like this know it gets better and don;t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, If I had done so I am convinced it would have been OK.

Take care all

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