please people i need advice , thoughts on this problem

[briannpaul]

Hi everyone i hope you're doing well , can someone please help me

i only need a good comparison or a way of thinking to get me move with my life ,a way of thinking that you could have thought of and i did not.

i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me.Happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life.Jjust like a perfume that reminds someone of a bad breakup with a partner and he wants to get rid of it , same thing for me with this home. Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house. It's been month since i did nothing new in my life, only waiting untill i move from here.

parents also didnt accept moving from this house.

=> and i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad

if it happened in our old house i would totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle ,not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue

, all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING

this may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot

i only need a different way of thinking that would make sense to me to save me. Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession ,anyway to view this thing differently ?

[Agora1]

Hi briannpaul, I know what you are saying and yet can't help but believe that there will always by a beginning or an end to a life event as you move to different homes. But is the answer in moving? If it were only that easy to forget, to not have those reminders of bad events in our lives. Maybe making small adjustments to the house in order to make it a new beginning for you and your family would be cheaper and less stressful. The more important thing is to get some therapy in order to leave the past behind you and move forward with your life. With the proper counseling, it can be done. No matter where we live, our mind and memories are always with us. This is what needs to change and I hope you can find a way to do that. Wishing you peace of mind.

[briannpaul]

thank you Agora for taking your time to read my post and trying to help

[Agora1 in reply to briannpaul]

briannpaul, I feel as if I'm missing something in your post. We can only respond to what we have been through in our own lives. Sometimes it may coincide with what someone else experienced. A therapist should be there to help guide and provide you with some input as how to address that major event that happened in this house. I'm thinking it has more behind it, You deserve answers, you deserve to be able to move on in whatever it takes. When a problem impacts your quality of life, professional help needs to be looked at. The more I re-read your post the deeper the problem seems to be inside you and that house. I hope you are able to get some help soon. Don't let life slip by. We all hold the key to the answer inside us but we sometimes need a therapist to help unlock the door holding us back. Good Luck briannpaul.

[briannpaul]

thanks for your concern agora i'll get throught this for sure

[briannpaul]

anyone ?