I gave up work at the beginning of march due to anxiety and depression...
Having CBT which is helpful..
I have found not only blogging on this site, but reading others blogs very therapeutic....more importantly, when I am feeling ok, replying to blogs and answering questions has helped me to concentrate and focus...
It may sound silly but it's been a bit like having a small job, problem solving thinking about issues, looking up things, trying to help in some small way when someone is having a bad day, encouraging someone when they achieve good things...it has helped me use my brain...sometimes that just isn't easy, lack of concentration is one of the symptoms and some days it is hard to read let alone respond,
I know a lot of us feel guilty when we put on a negative blog ....but all blogs negative or positive are very helpful in lots of ways, not just for the person blogging but for the reader not only perhaps learning but empathising, answering and supporting....
I thank people for that....
Sue xxxx
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That's a nice blog to read and I must agree
I agree, since I started blogging I have felt a little better and reading others blogs has helped me aswell, although I don't fell comfortable replying to the majority of them (silly I know). but I really appreciate the replies I get.
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And the great thing is there is no pressure to reply to blogs..there is a good general understanding...you can just choose to read them if you wish and that helps..
Thank you for putting this into words - I too read a lot of people's blogs, but rarely reply (though I often start writing answers, I rarely hit the submit button - low self esteem maybe?). Sometimes when I read what other people are dealing with it makes my worries feel trivial and then I feel like a fraud. But you have expressed it really well - thanks.
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Hi Arden
Thank you for replying I think we are all the same and nervous about replying sometimes..it doesn't matter...there is no pressure...
if reading the bogs helps its good....
I feel like you sometimes when I read some of the blogs, but we are all suffering in our own ways....
I hope your day is a good one
Sue xx
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Arden
I agree totally with bonkers woman's comments in respect of you...
Your blog doesn’t sound silly but rational, balanced and functional. You, as every human being, need attachments to other persons. Blog is one route but next step is a physical attachment. We need a Secure Base that our parents were not able to give us.
Last week I wrote in my diary something similar to what is written in your image: a lot of problems in the world would disappear if we talk to each other instead of about each other.
Sue, I don't think everyone should work. We aren't all cut out for it. I had a lot of therapy of different types, and then, one day, a young male community therapist said to me 'just because you can do something, it doesn't mean you have to do it.' So I took a much less stressful job and was much better. I felt guilty for a while, but I now see how wise that was. The Ancient Greeks used to support people to just sit and think. How sensible.
I agree with your thoughts and thank you for them.
Arden, lack of self esteem is the cause of many problems. You have as much right to be low as anyone has. There is no standard measurement for this. I hope you begin to press the submit button because I am sure you are worth listening to and replying to.
Ashley, Michael,Eta,Arden,Grucio, bless the lot of you! So right!
Thank you Bonkerswoman
I like what you say, the guilt I have felt since I gave up my job is tremendous...we are kinda conditioned hey...I have worked hard in high pressure roles for most of my life....I am now realising I can't do it anymore and coming to terms with that has been hard...
When I am ready to go back to the workplace it will be a much smaller role that I take and in fact if I don't have to work again I won't I would much rather spend some time helping people if that were possible....
I'm so glad you're finding blogging to be therapeutic and I totally agree with you - I was thinking about this only yesterday - it really does feel like having a small job As you know I've left work now too and this site has really encouraged me to get up and do things with my day - I like to feel busy (in a controlled way!) and that I've got things to get done and I like to try and get out of the house and set aside time when I can to read things on here and reply.
It's kept my brain ticking over and given me a focus too, it's brilliant!
I'm glad you're finding the CBT helpful and that being on here is having such a positive effect I hope you remember this even when you're having a really tough time because we all understand and will be here to help you. You are so kind and thoughtful and have been so supportive
Thank you for your lovely comments ..yes it's good , it's a kinda therapy in itself
Hope you have a restful night and your time off work is helping, I know at first it hit me hard initially, but I'm going with it now , still hard some days but the site is great,,
Hi Sue, I also have given up work recently and suffer from anxiety and depression, at the moment though I am waiting for a heart procedure due to atrial fibrillation, I absolutely love this site and read the blog most days however, although I have complete empathy for the people suffering, I find it very hard to put into words how I feel for them and what I can say to make them feel better. I think it may be a self esteem thing as Bonkerswoman has said, (fantastic name by the way).
I wish we could all have only good days and not suffer from this awful thing.
Best wishes everyone, I hope we all have a good nights rest.
Thank you for the comments, no need to worry on here..we all have great experiences to share ....thank you so much for the comments you made it really is nice..and good to know we are not alone in all this..
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