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[Andypandy30]

Missing my child's school show . Feeling annoyed and upset . Physically not feeling well at min and have weak muscles in my legs so dealing with not trusting my body either and feeling like such a bad mum letting anxiety boss me .

[BonnieSue]

Oh yes! It's frustrating, isn't it? Aggravating!!

Can you walk around the house and see if you can make your legs obey you and get some control back for yourself? Think about how much you want to see your daughter? Anxiety sends us false messages and we don't have to believe them. Remember: anxiety lies to us all the time. It's lying to you about your legs, which are perfectly capable of taking you for a long walk or whatever you want to do with them. Don't believe the false messages of weakness. There IS NO WEAKNESS.

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

Thank you sue yes I have been doing that . I'm ok in the house but out in public I get scared .

[BonnieSue in reply to Andypandy30]

Ok, that's what I thought. Can you sort of sneak in where your daughter has her event? Or is it too late? I was thinking if you're a little bit late that could be in your favor for slipping in and out without the crowds noticing you. Depends on how things are arranged.

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

It's the distance away from my home also sue . I just don't think I can .

[BonnieSue in reply to Andypandy30]

Ok, then I guess you need to explain to your daughter that you love her very much but you have an illness (and give her the name if you think it will make it more real to her) that didn't allow you to come. And how very much you wanted to be there. You could ask her to tell you every detail about her special event so you could feel just like you were there. Do you think she'll be okay with this? As much as possible? Surely she's seen how you don't get out much. She'll know it's not just her. You could point that out to her just to confirm it in her mind.

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

Aw sue she knows truly how much I'd want to be there . She knows I have been to everything she's ever needed me to be at to support her but in the last year physically iv found it tough . BUT hopefully she sees how I push through every single day to be the best mum I can be and support her and love her in all the other ways she needs . Her dad is going so one parent is a bonus as some kids don't even have that . It's just the happy and special moments that anxiety steals away is the unfair part . I truly want to feel normal and do these things without the apprehension and enjoy these special times again . I did not mentally prepare myself for this which I need to do in order to be able to go and face all the problems that arise . I just can't help feeling guilty . As I am soo proud of her and know it means a lot to her . I have however been preparing for a meeting in her school not so far away and something I could maybe manage . And in the meantime work on getting myself stronger for these difficult times . It's tough as I don't want her to remember the one time I didn't go and forget all the times I did in the past and thank god for each and every one of them xx

[BonnieSue in reply to Andypandy30]

You keep on doing the best that you can and you will get past this. It sounds like your daughter will understand what happened to you and will be ok with you even if she's a little disappointed. At least her dad is doing something right! This is the 1st I've heard of that.

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

Thank you sue yes for her not for me but that's fine X

[daisy-17]

Don't feel guilty to her you are the best mum in the world.

[Andypandy30 in reply to daisy-17]

Thank you daisy -17 I really appreciate that xx

[BonnieSue in reply to Andypandy30]

daisy's right. She will still look to you as her mum and the greatest mum in all the world.

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

Thank you sue I really appreciate that xx

[BonnieSue in reply to Andypandy30]

I wouldn't say it if it wasn't true. But it took someone else to say it first for me to realize I hadn't said it at all. I'm sorry it took me so long! : (

[Andypandy30 in reply to BonnieSue]

Thank u my friend sue xx

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I feel your paIn

As a mum our minds are set to always be there and do things for our children

I can't even take my son to school as I'm so bad

And I cry every time my friend Pisces him up to take him

It's my job,

We are not weak, we're just the unfortunate ones who this illness has persacuted

Sending hugs to you

Hopefully soon we all will be ok and strong and we can beat this shit

[Andypandy30 in reply to Hidden]

aw I'm so sorry for you also . It's so hard thank u for thinking of me too . It would be wonderful to beat this xx

[cazza1001]

Just a random thought - you aren't on Blood Pressure medication are you ?

I am Hypo and just started BP treatment as well but assumed the dead legs ( numbness ) was due to the BP medication and not undertreated Hypo ....

anyway - sympathise - as I have this too - hope you get it sorted

[Andypandy30 in reply to cazza1001]

Cazza 1001 I'm on propranolol 20 mg three times a day I am also hypo . What are u on ? Would you believe this came in to my head today that is so strange you saying this . Iv been eliminating things and trying to work everything out I'm determined to get to the bottom of this it is so upsetting on top of everything else X please get back to me x

[cazza1001]

I'm was on Lorsatan and Ramapril - both caused terrible fatique and muscle aches / numbness - I only got moved yesterday to a Calcium Channel Blocker drug ... Propranol is known to cause massive fatique in some patients ( assume you on it for blood pressure or anxiety ?) ... That said your TSH is way out too ... worth speaking to Doc about Propranol - did symptoms kick in when you upped a dose or just after taking it ?

[Andypandy30]

Iv been on it since going hyper almost 2 years ago and it never affected me like this before . What do u mean about tsh please. X

[cazza1001 in reply to Andypandy30]

sorry mis read your TSH - its fine ... do you have a T3 Result ? x