Overshadowed

My brother he is one year youger than me I am 16 and don't know what the hell my problem is,it's been my whole life I've always felt this way that I'm just not as loved as my younger brother he plays video games loves pizza and doesn't strive to reach his full potential he doesn't care for school and can honestly be the most selfish person on the planet yet no one cares about it,don't get me wrong I love my brother it's just I'm constantly pushed in to the backround I'm constantly stretching out for attention like reaching out for my family's hand but the they grab it and just to tease me and drop me back down to the pits of hell the guy gets whatever he ask for doesn't have a care or problem on the world and me we'll I have constant anxiety self esteem issues and depression but it seems my family knows this and doesn't care and just wants to bask in my brothers shining glory I don't what to do anymore I don't know if this will help I just wanted to vent I guess

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  • How did I know no one would reply

    1) if gods real he hates me

    2)christmas is bullshit

    3)I'm a narsastic asshole who can't appreciate life

    4)any love attention and care given to me goes straight out the window so my brother can have something extra

    Don't waste your time replying you don't know me or my life so don't bother I doubt you can help

  • It is CHRISTMAS k?

    Folks have:

    1.Families,

    2. Responsibilities,

    3. Are away.

    4. Have people staying over

    5. Are too sick to respond

    6. International time zones don't always allow for immediate replies

    6. Etc, etc ETC

    7. Read 1-6 AGain 😑

    Bless

  • It's not that I'm jealous it's that I'm not treated the same I can do the exact same he is doing and still get backlash while he gets a clean slate it not just my mom or my dad its everyone family members friends I do love my family but I've tried and tried and still am today to be nice and to help but in my experience the more you try to help the more your family and friends screws you over last christmas my grandma sold all my christmas presents not to mention my birthday present and left me with noting and for what,you see I had this phone that had all my photos and memories that I wanted to keep being separated from my mom and my baby brother was hard especially when your hearing your mom might have to sleep in a car for a year,those photos were the only thing that kept me sane so yeah I wanted to keep the phone but she says I'm giving it your cousin (he's 7) I explain to her why I want to keep it and she says no sells it anyways along with everything I got that Year for talking back to her while my brother gets to play his new xbox and wear his gold chain and he did the exact same thing as me but nothing happened like I said I love my brother and it's not his fault I guess I just don't understand why life is this way why he's so much more luckier so much more loved than I am why life can't give me a break and I know there's people much more worse off Than me but then I think why?well I guess as the old saying goes life isn't fair you just go on living in a world where god may not exist where there are no pots of gold at a dull endless dumbass rainbow if god exist than why are people starving in Africa why do veterans sleep on cold asphalt ask yourself the question what's your answer do you have one?people always tell me things happen for a reason how are they so optimistic when there's so much tragedy around the world when tomorrow can be anyone's last day on earth I honestly don't know where I'm going with this I rambled but whatever what's the point I am the biggest grinch on christmas

  • Unless all of this is affecting you mentally such as developing depression and anxiety, then I'm sorry to say you're going to have to suck it up. You won't be 16 forever. Your adolescence will pass you by in a heartbeat.

    Instead of focussing on a world that has ALWAYS had negativity in it, cast your eyes to the good in the world. Also should you actively to see the glass half empty, then you're setting yourself up for LIFETIME of misery and no-one likes to be around people like that.

    If you're at school talk to your school counsellor because as you've said: "you don't know me or my life so don't bother I doubt you can help". I don't know if I've helped. Probably not.

  • Thank you very much I don't know if I'm gonna go see the school counselor but you seem like a very nice person so I thank you I beat myself up I know that I don't know why and I've been going through a lot lately which is why my outlook on things lately have been negative hasn't really changed but my negativity shouldn't affect other so I'm sorry

  • You seem like an intelligent and very self aware young woman. Use your acute sensitivity to help yourself rather than beating yourself up. Make a POINT of IMMEDIATELY changing your mindset when negativity sets in. Look after your mind and emotions and they will look after you.

    You're at an age when you should be having fun with male and female friends who make you feel happy ... and who make you laugh.

    Re your brother, yeah it's unfair but nothing new. You can't change it. Re the state of the world ... you can change your corner of the world by startng to be more upbeat and positive. This will have a trickle on effect across your family and community.

    Take care of yourself.

  • It sounds like you're feeling pretty sorry for yourself. This sort of negative introspection is very bad for your health.

    Why does it matter that you are not loved as much? It's not a competition. Jealousy will make you feel worse and also not endear others to you.

    Have you chatted to your parents about these feelings?

    Beating yourself up will make you feel worse.

    Why not do some activity or distraction?

    Give this time to pass.

    Love others and your are likely to be loved more yourself

  • It's not that I'm jealous it's that I'm not treated the same I can do the exact same he is doing and still get backlash while he gets a clean slate it not just my mom or my dad its everyone family members friends I do love my family but I've tried and tried and still am today to be nice and to help but in my experience the more you try to help the more your family and friends screws you over last christmas my grandma sold all my christmas presents not to mention my birthday present and left me with noting and for what,you see I had this phone that had all my photos and memories that I wanted to keep being separated from my mom and my baby brother was hard especially when your hearing your mom might have to sleep in a car for a year,those photos were the only thing that kept me sane so yeah I wanted to keep the phone but she says I'm giving it your cousin (he's 7) I explain to her why I want to keep it and she says no sells it anyways along with everything I got that Year for talking back to her while my brother gets to play his new xbox and wear his gold chain and he did the exact same thing as me but nothing happened like I said I love my brother and it's not his fault I guess I just don't understand why life is this way why he's so much more luckier so much more loved than I am why life can't give me a break and I know there's people much more worse off Than me but then I think why?well I guess as the old saying goes life isn't fair you just go on living in a world where god may not exist where there are no pots of gold at a dull endless dumbass rainbow if god exist than why are people starving in Africa why do veterans sleep on cold asphalt ask yourself the question what's your answer do you have one?people always tell me things happen for a reason how are they so optimistic when there's so much tragedy around the world when tomorrow can be anyone's last day on earth I honestly don't know where I'm going with this I rambled but whatever what's the point I am the biggest grinch on christmas

  • You've spent the whole of your post beating yourself up with negative thinking again. Your first sentence describes jealousy and yet you deny it. That's cognitive dissonance.

    If you want things to change you'll have to change what you do. You're wallowing in self pity.

    I repeat what I said before. Have you chatted with your parents about this?

  • Yup they don't care

  • Maybe ur parents feel ur a strong and smart enough person and don't need as much as ur brother because of such things like. Try think positive..

  • Alright thanks I thank you because you care though I don't understand my parents logic or much of anyone's really I don't really need to I guess it's what makes things interesting I'm not a positive person like I said I'm narcissist on top of that a pessimist though I guess I can try to be positive I know my comment rant on about being overshadowed but that's not all the reasons I am the way I am but most of my problems most likely can be fixed by thinking postively idk possibly no reason not to try I guess

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