I don't like being judged.

[Dodo777]

Specially when I know they are not perfect themselves. People don't know what goes on behind closed doors and people can be cruel or parents I should say.

[Hidden]

So your parents are been cruel ?

[Dodo777 in reply to Hidden]

yep

[JP1954]

Who are being cruel, them, parents or everyone. Are they telling you to pull yourself together. Do they understand where you are mentally at the moment?

Regards

[Agora1]

I hear you Dodo777, no one is perfect. It's easy for some to judge others without knowing the harm and luggage we all carry from our pasts. When it's a parent , it hurts even more. This is your life now, you don't owe an explanation to anyone. Turn a deaf ear to the negatives. We can all only be the best we can be with what we have been given.

Take care..

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

My heart breaks for my son. He has moved miles away from what he is used to living with a girl they don't know anyone and they both don't socialize. I love him so much and hate seeing him up there. Its a horrible place the people seem a bit to wild kids drinking and I mean 10 year olds. I hope they can get a house back home . That's if they don't settle.

[Agora1 in reply to Dodo777]

Hi Dodo, the worry never stops as a parent no matter what age they are. There comes a time we must let go. It doesn't mean to stop loving them. We need to breathe too. Sometimes when stress isn't right in front of us, it gives us a chance to catch our breaths. Take in the quiet moments, meditate, deep breathe and take care of Dodo. If you don't, no one will.

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

My son wonders why i'm getting so stressed . 4 times today i given him a lift the last time 2 pm this morning. I try with him but he just isnt getting being on call 24 hrs a day being kept waiting hours is sending me around the bend. I have driven over a hundred miles today and fuel aint getting any cheaper. He asks for my valium he doesnt need them because he's stoned 24/7. Hard work really hard work. Yea I could say no and leave him suffer but THATS NOT ME.

[Agora1 in reply to Dodo777]

Oh Dodo, this keeps getting worse. That's unforgivable for you to be on call 24/7. Driving 100 miles is more than about the fuel, it's about how it is stressing you out to the limit. They don't have a car? It's easy for me to say that you need to put your foot down. He knows you aren't going to back down. Where does this end now? Either you getting sick or your son overdosing. It's serious, it's sad Dodo. Keep coming on the forum, you need support right now and I don't know if I have the answer. Remember one thing and that is you must come first or you won't be there to help anyone. Take care.

[Hidden in reply to Dodo777]

Been stoned wont help him hes guna give you a break down a can imagine how hard it is for u am drrading my sons growing up as theres to many drugs etc god a bloody hope mine touch drugs id top me self take care and have a great xmas xxx

[Hidden]

Dodo frig your parents if there judging you. Concentrate on you self and son take care x

[Stay_strong85]

Hi, so true. I live with an abusive family member myself. And I hate being judged because no one knows unless they are in my shoes. It can be real hard. Today was a bad day. But we have to keep going strong trying to keep or find our own peace within ourselves. ☺I hope everything gets better for you. 🎄😊Be well. God bless.

[Glondon1]

Hi all, I've been through the same. I find it so hard to motivate myself to go out, wash, socialise. I've had family members call me lazy and idle but i have a lot to deal with. I empathise with you all and have learned to not give a s**t anymore. It's hard but we can do it x