New to this site, need help

[Maisymona]

Hi.

I'm new to this site, I've just signed up as I've had a massive blow outs struggling with anxiety and depression and having terrible feelings. Worst I've ever felt, just want it all to end

[Agora1]

Hi Maisymona, Welcome to the anxiety forum. We've all gone through what you are experiencing. Struggling with anxiety and depression is wearing. Each time it hits, it seems worse than the time before. But is it or are we just getting so worn down mentally and physically? My belief has always been that anxiety doesn't come from no where. If this is all new to you then it's time to see your doctor who will be able to clear you of any health issues. Then if you are diagnosed with Anxiety/Depression a therapist may be able to help you see your way more clearly when you do get these massive blow outs. Medication may be warranted while going through therapy (in which there are many kinds) which will give you a start on then moving forward yourself using different modalities. Changing your way of thinking from negative to positive thoughts. Not giving into the panic and fear that it causes. It all takes time and practice to get to your final goal and that is for it to end.

I wish you well.

[Maisymona in reply to Agora1]

Hi. Thank you for your reply. Yes I do feel completely worn down. I've been to the doctors and I'm almost 1 month into taking anti depressants and I've got an appointment booked with a therapist but nothing seems to be happening quick enough. It seems everything I do is not good enough and I feel like I can't win. Everything I do turns into a massive blow out and I can't control it. I'm trying to do things like exercise and housework but it's never good enough. I can't stand socialising but I still do it but I feel I'm doing it wrong or I'm not doing it enough. I just can't push myself any more than I am doing cus it's just making it worse. I just need to chill until I can see w therapist but I feel I'm not allowed to just do nothing as its wrong. It's all such a mess

[Kainan in reply to Maisymona]

HI. You don't have to be perfect at everything you do all the time. It's not necessary. And it's gonna wear you down. Just let some thing be how they are. If that conversation didn't turn out exactly like you thought it would, then let it go. Or if the housework you're doing is not exactly perfect to your standards, let it go. Breathe and remember to not be too hard on yourself.

[Dylon19]

Im here to talk if you need <3

[Maisymona in reply to Dylon19]

Thank you dylon

[Leelaa]

I have anxiety to. I know the reason why I have it and when I started having it. I had major panic attacks at least 3 times a weak. I went to thearpy to talk about some tradegys that happened in my life . I found out that panic attacks come from things we never dealed with that we never had closure to that we never talked about . Anxiety is to much adrenalin in our brain that rushes threw and we don't know how or what to do with it so our minds start to worry and then our body's start to tense up and then our heart races then we think bad thoughts and our brain tells our body to fight for what we think is wrong . If we think we are having a heart attack then our brain tells our heart to beat faster . And one thing that stopped my panic and slowed down my anxiety is being told that u can NOT die from anxiety, in fact it's the opposite of dieing . People with anxiety are shallow breathers so next time u have an anxiety attack breath slow and deeply let it pass instead of fight it cause it makes it worse . Go for a walk or positive talk yourself . You are alright. Your body it goes on flight mode to try to protect you for what your mind thinks is wrong . So tell yourself that it's just anxiety it will pass .Hope this helps .

[Maisymona in reply to Leelaa]

Thank you, reading that has really helped me