i dont know why..

[CassieJane]

You know what iv changed since my last post here... i started to depend on my self more and not with my best friend. I became emotionally steady. We have been ok for around a month and i thought were going well actually.. Then she acted again as if i have been so bad to her and s if i was never good to her. I thought we had an understanding already. Then 2 days ago she started to become aloof again with me. I understand before that we had a rough friendship because iv been so clingy to her but now i cant understand why. We seldom go out together. She goes out with other friends and i am totally ok with that. I goes out by myself, do things i like by myself and i am also ok doing it. We see each other everyday because we are housemate but we seldom talk to each other personally when were at home. We just talks about casual things but not personal because there are other people in the house. We do chat in FB messenger but not a lot because she has work and i have too. I cant understand why she is telling me that we do chat a lot if i can only talk to her few minutes online because she has work. and although i have left messages she doesnt read it or is not excited to read it. I remember i confront her last night because i have left so many msgs then i saw her browsing FB then ignoring my messages. I dont get the point as we seldom go out, seldom talk and chatting online is what we have but still she is saying i am controlling her? I dont get it. Is it wrong if i will have displeasure on her? besides it hurts that my bestfriend is not interested on me anymore.

I understand that she in stress on her work but she doesn't tell or share me anything,. Its hard because i cant do anything. What she wants me to do is leave her alone.

Then today we talked. I let her go. I told her to go on find herself and seek the reasons why she is like this. She just needs time for herself i know that. All i want for her is to be happy. I dont want to lose my best friend but i want her to be happy. True happiness. I cant be on that process. She dont need me on this situation. It hurts. so much. I told her that if she find her happiness i hope that she will find way to come back to me again. If ever she needs me i will be there for her always.

But what if after this time alone she found out that she is better off without me? What else is there left for me? This is my doubt then i stop communicating with her. I dont think i can bear when she tell me that " hey sorry but i dont need you anymore and without you i became happy. I dont want to be your bestfriend anymore ". This is insane.. And im trying not to think of it. This is what i am afraid of. Losing her.

What shall i do? Anyway we are off now.. I am waiting for her to come back. If she will. I hope so.

[allnew2me]

I think you have done the right thing. When you love someone and things aren't working out you set them free. Just as you have with your best friend. Some of your questions will probably remain unanswered but I think you'll find answers to others on your journey of growth and independence.

Sometimes people just change as they grow. It's gradual over time but being so close we do not notice it until something significant happens. This may be the case with you two or you may find another reason.

I'm glad to see you are gaining independence now and sound happier than you were despite it hurting xx

[Hidden]

Hello

Sounds like you have made some progress even if not as you wanted it to be

Relationships of any kind can be one of the hardest things we have to deal with in life especially when our emotions are involved

We can and do get let down , like someone once said to me a relationship does not come with a guarantee so they can break down and come to an end well before we ever expect them to , I think we have all experienced this happening at sometime and more than once for some of us to !

Trying to get into someone else's head wondering why this and why that just keeps the circle of pain we are feeling going round and round as we can never know what is really going of in someone else's mind and sometimes they do not want to share it with us either but it seems like this person is trying to keep some distance and if it were me I would stop hurting myself more by wondering why as even if you knew it possibly would make no difference but let them now go altogether , maybe stop FB them to if they are not answering let them get on with whatever it is they want to do and you move forward which I know you have been and good for you doing that and I believe if this was meant to be maybe one day they will be back in your life playing a bigger part again but if not then it was not meant to be but there will be other friendships you will form just as good if not better , I think we have to put these experiences down to lessons in life and hopefully we learn and grow stronger from them

Take Care x