When does it start to feel better....?

[Moonmoo]

I'm having a really bad time with anxiety which has turned into depression. The more I try to will myself the worse it gets. I'm on meds and see a nurse everyday at the moment. I'm a different person to the one I was before. I'm afraid I will lose my job and my home. It's hard when you live alone. Does anyone else get lonely with this?

[Aazz]

My anxiety has also turned into depression and I do feel lonely too my husband comes home from work and sits on the computer all night. My parents get frustrated with me if I keep going on about my issues. And my best friend just had a baby so doesn't have much time to hang out with me or speak much on the phone but I also don't want to bother people with my problems. I really don't know what the answer is but you seem to be taking the right steps by taking medication and seeing a nurse. Are you seeing a therapist? It may be a good idea to see if you can find an anxiety depression support group to attend so you can speak to people who understand and going the other way maybe you could join a club or sport or a short course where you can meet new people and get your mind of anxiety you may make some friends..

I hope you feel better soon

[Moonmoo in reply to Aazz]

Thank you, your reply means a lot. I live alone and it's hard to motivate myself. I do have support through the hospital, they are very good. But like you I feel a little guilty talking to my friends about it, like I'm being a nuisance really. It's not fun for them to listen. Maybe a support group would be good. Maybe someone in my area needs to start one.

I think the hard thing is knowing what I should go but being scared to do it and then avoiding concretes the fear and deepens the depression. Rrrggghh we all need an anxiety holiday! Much love

[Hidden]

It is hard if you're alone but, and this is the weird part, you need someone to talk to.

Tell one of your friends what is going on - you'll be surprised just how good a good friend can be.

The important bit is not to keep stuff bottled up.

Where in the world are you? Maybe someone knows of a support group in your area?

[Moonmoo]

Im in the UK. I do worry my friends will get fed up and i will bring them down. Im not great to be around right now. I do talk to people when i can but im a bit like a stuck record. A couple of my friends have said im beyond their help and they dont kniw what to say. Trying different meds this week. Starting the transition from the old ones so i am hoping that will help too. I apologise for being so negative. I appreciate your reply very much.

[Eiva]

I'm in the UK as well, and not sure if we are near each other but if you ever want to message me I will happily listen and reply as soon as I can. Just know you're not alone, that can help

[Markie]

Hey, I have anxiety aswel, my biggest issue is always being afraid it's something worse as the physical feeling is really strong, I'm on pills aswel but they're not really helping, I started doing some work outs at home but can't see any benefits just yet, also stopped smoking and drinking alcohol but still feel the same, the biggest thing that stops me going out is the pressure in my head and feeling dizzy, I'm now off sick from work for 6 weeks, did therapy but it didn't really help. I had problems with breathing too but doing breathing excersizes really helped that. Now I'm just hopping the dizziness and head pressure will pass, it took me about 2 years to finally do something about it, it got to the point where I couldn't go anymore so doctors were the only option. Now I'm hopping I will soon see the other side. Hope you will too

[Mattlyneaston]

Depression and anxiety are two sides of the same coin... Often after I have a panic attack I feel very depressed. Sometimes it takes a long time to find the right combination of medication that works for you...but believe me when I say that anxiety and depression are very treatable conditions. I feel lonely a lot too because I don't know anyone that goes thru anxiety and depression the way I do so I never have anyone to vent to or relate to about how I'm feeling...I find that reading these forums makes me feel a little better knowing there are other people out there who are dealing with this as well

[Moonmoo in reply to Mattlyneaston]

I agree this site really helps to know we are all in it together. X

[Sandy47]

The thing about anxiety is that we often try TOO hard to get rid of it and that puts more strain on our exhausted nerves! The best method is to just let it happen and go with it and say 'So what' it won't kill you! The best book I've read is 'At last a life' by Paul David. He was a sufferer himself for years and he gives useful advice on tackling anxiety. I have it as an app and refer to it all the time. Best wishes - you can get through this x

[Moonmoo]

Thank you lots and i will look for the book. You are very kind x