14 year old/ anxiety

I'm 14 years old and I feel like I should just give up. I used to enjoy school and seeing my friends but now my anxiety is taking over me. I constantly worry about getting called names in school. I have changed my whole image and personality to fit In and it worked for the past 2 years but now the people who were supposed to be my friends make horrible rumours up about me and it feels like the whole school is against me. It's even worse as I'm going through family issues.

I just need someone to support me as I feel to scared to tell my family or my friends because I feel like my existence is annoying enough.

Ps. Is there anyway I could feel more confident about myself? Thanks

S x

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  • Hi Sofia, have you told your friends how they have made you feel? You will always find that those who pick on you or treat you bad only do it because there Prob going through some sort of personal trouble themselves or trying also to fit in, and sometimes people treat others bad because it sorta takes away how they feel about themselves. I think it's a teenage thing, I know saying that will not help your current situation, but best advice I can give you is to be yourself, don't change for other people. keep smiling and your true friends will eventually shine through xxx

  • Thank you so much xxx

  • Hello

    I have to say to start with you should be 16 to be a member on Health Unlocked so please take care of yourself on here as with any website you have to

    I really felt for you especially when you said you had changed your image to fit in and it worked and now it is not , when you get older you will realize you are fine just the way you are and there is no need to try & be anyone different and if people do not accept you just as you are then that is their problem but that comes with maturity and I no I can just vaguely remember what it was like when you feel you are not liked at School because it feels the most important thing in your life , we do spend a lot of time in School & around the same group of people

    You do need some support with this and maybe with the family problems you are having to deal with

    Have you looked on child Line , you can put it in Google they are there to give young people all kinds of support they may need

    Is there any family member a Grandparent maybe that you could confide in , a teacher at School maybe ?

    I hope you may feel that you can talk to someone because if you could I am sure it would be a relief for you and you would also get some support but do not think you are the only person that has ever felt like this when they are your age because you are not I think most of us felt the same but hold your head up high because deep inside there will be a beautiful person and you may not see it but these kids that ignore you & spread rumors are seeing it and that is why in my opinion they are having to try & drag you down because what you don't realize is you will be a threat to them because they could never be as nice as you :-)

    Try & talk to someone to help you through this difficult time and things will get better it is a learning curb and sometimes it is painful but it will make you stronger as you work your way through it & come through the other end

    Take Care x

  • I know you say you're afraid to tell your family and friends. But you're so young and you must know that all of us on here feel for you. I know it's hard, but please talk to your parents. as a mother, I'm sure they want to help you. I don't know you but I still believe your parents love you. TALK TO THEM. I'm sure they would so want to help. We are here for you.

  • I'm sorry that you are going through a difficult time. You mention that your anxiety seems to be taking over and you worry that you will be called names. Anxiety plays a number on your mind you feel things are happening but they are not and if the people you are calling friends are spreading rumors about you, they are not friends. you need to find new people to hang around with and maybe one will become a good friend. You are feeling that the whole school is against you but again that could be your anxiety making you feel this way. You need to ignore rumors especially when you know they are not true. Go back to being who you really are. Don't try to change into someone you're not. Be true to yourself and learn to love and appreciate the qualities that the real you has. In order for you to find nice people to be with, they need to know who you are. If you don't like yourself, nobody else will either. Be true to yourself and in order to have friends, you have to be a good friend also. There are many people at your school and I'm sure you will be able to meet someone that can become a good friend. Even if there are issues in your family, it doesn't mean they don't love or care about you, but if you really feel they won't listen, try talking to a teacher you like or a counselor. This will take courage and you might not find a friend right away but just smile and be nice to everyone. Don't assume you are the only one with no problems at home or the only one that hasn't found a true friend. However, stay away from the kids you call friends because they are not friends. You are young and this experience will make you stronger and Learn to appreciate who you are.

  • I have a daughter the same age as you and I would be mortified to think she thought advice/help somewhere like a website rather than talk to me or her mother.

    Don't think they won't want to listen or that they won't understand, their priority will be you and your well-being and they will want to do all they can to help. Schools are so much more equipped for this nowadays too, there are people to talk to in complete confidence who will make sure you are ok. Don't bottle things up, you need to let people who know and care for you help you :)

  • I graduated from high school a little over a year ago and let me tell you things change so much. You won't even see or talk to half of those people once your out of school. Don't react to rumors. Once they notice that they don't bother you they'll stop and if they're really out of hand speak up for yourself. They're the ones who are insecure if they have to do that to boost themselves. Keep your head high even when you don't feel that way. It will eventually come naturally. I wish I knew that none of that stuff mattered in highschool to but it took me until my junior year to realize that I didn't care what anyone thought of me & at the end of the day alot of what I thought people thought about me was just in my head. Stay strong xx

    Remember your worth and that you were made the way you are for a precise reason

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