Please help me

[Sandraan]

I am terrified with this anixtey and just can not deal with it anymore the pain is far to much for me to handle. I just can't go on living like this battling every hour with fear, I'm TERRIFED please help me

[Hidden]

Hello Eddy

Can you expand a little what is happening so we may help if we can

Are you in the UK ?

Are you getting any support ?

I know things may seem really bad at the moment but with the right help & support things will & do get slowly better

Keep talking on here to others you will realize how you are feeling you are not the only one to have ever felt this way and you will get some good advise on how others manage their anxiety

Take Care x

[Sandraan in reply to Hidden]

Why don't people reply like you did I'm so terrified need to hear people

[Hidden in reply to Sandraan]

Hello Eddy

Sometimes people may not know how to reply ....

They may not be on the site looking around or

They maybe struggling themselves

But eventually when & as people do come on those that can will usually reply

Can you tell us a bit more about where you are with your anxiety , how it is affecting you and if you are getting any help at all ?

This may help us to try & help you the best we can x

[Aazz]

Yes it would be helpful to know more information, how long have you been struggling? What are you terrified of? Are you having panic attacks or just general anxiety? Have you spoken to a doctor and had any tests? Do you take medication or see a therapist? are you having physical symptoms.

I would say first step if you haven't done so see your GP.

The gp will run tests to make sure you are physically healthy which I am sure you are but sometimes thyroid or vitamin deficiencies can make you feel his way.

Then with the GP you can plan your recovery seeing a therapist and possible medication.

From the way you sound to me through your post I feel you really need to speak to a therapist to give you the tools to cope and reassure you.

Download some meditation apps

Get som essential lavender oil and maybe a bottle of rescue remedy from the health shop these will help calm you.

Listen to some music you enjoy

And another good tip is to look up funny videos on YouTube whether it be candid camera or stand up comedians.

Try to stay around company as well don't seclude your self too much this makes things 100 times worse when you are with company it helps get your mind off things but make sure it is the right company positive people who make you feel good, secure and safe.

I hope I have helped a little.

Feel free to ask me any questions

[Sandraann21 in reply to Aazz]

Hi Aazz, I have just been reading your advise and help and was wondering if you could help me please I have suffered with depression most of my life but since January I have started with server Anxitey too, I have weaned myself off 500mg depakote tablet the hospital put me on then after me having a manic episode ( fist time ever ) and said I had biopolar, I haven't got or had biopolar ( I had a break down ) due to five years of bullying from a neighbour and her daughters, back to today my anxiety is so bad I'm finding it so very hard to cope with, I think it has gone worst coming off the depakote ( I never wanted to be on ) my GP has put me on beta blockers last week but I haven't noticed any different yet !!! The mornings are unbearable the anxiety wakes me up, I'm TERRIFED of the day, the next hour, my future, I'm living with my parents for the past six months and it's really time for me to be moving back home, but I just don't feel I can cope at the moment as Iam unable to do any everyday things, I force myself out the bed of a morning, get dressed and go out, were do I go all day ????? When I'm TERRIFED and crippled with fear, Anywere but in the house with the anxiety eating at me, I really am struggling this is no life to live. I'm a single Middle Aged women, with no life at all. So sorry it's so long but I just needs to tell someone who understands

[Aazz in reply to Sandraann21]

Hi Sandraan

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling that way. I have been suffering with severe anxiety especially physical symptoms for 10 months now but I've always had a mild version of anxiety. When it first started 10 months ago I also was unable to cope my husband had to take off work for 2 months as I couldn't be by myself or cope with our 2 kids I didn't shower or clean the house I was actually just frozen and terrified as I thought I had some medical issue. 10 months on and I am better I am living my normal life functioning normally however I still suffer anxiety and physical symptoms but I'm just living with them and there are a few things I need to do as in go to a therapist change my lifestyle a bit by exercising and eating better to continue to hopefully s full recovery.

That's a bit of my story but the point of me telling you is it does get better you want be at rock bottom forever.

I would say coming off the meds is definitely contributing to feeling worse but that too will pass you will just need to wait it out I can't give you much advise with med withdrawal as I have not gone through it. I tried one Zoloft pill that screwed me up and I was too terrified to continue and just from that one pill of 50mg it took me about 6 days to recover not sure if it was the medication or just me. I also lasted about 5 days on a low dose of Paxil I just can't get through the side effects they freak me out to the point of my anxiety being 100 times worse and that is a hell I can't put myself through however I wish I could as maybe I would get relief.

Anyway the things that have helped me the most -

A book called hope and help for your nerves by Clair weekes

Essential Lavender oil on my wrists temples and neck.

Rescue remedy

A stress relief tea that's has lavender in it

I have recently started taking tissue salts google it. I believe they are really helping. I take a magnesium one and a nerve one but there are more that I will also take have a look at this article m.naturalnews.com/news/0331...

Distract yourself as much as possible find something anything that distracts you start a hobby drawing, painting, gardening anything and just make yourself do it. Maybe even get a pet?

Listen to music it really helps, you may cry but it lets it all out.

Watch funny videos on YouTube.

Try to stay with people don't be alone with your thoughts.

Just keep pushing through keep living your life even if you feel terrible

Don't focus on your symptoms this has helped me a lot.

Read positive stories about people who overcame anxiety

Talk to yourself a lot pump yourself up tell your self I am strong I am healthy I am calm and I am happy.

Tell the fear to 'F' off you won't beat me sometimes it's good to get angry and say enough is enough.

Also try to do a CBT course and find a therapist that you like sometimes you won't connect with them all so try a different one until you are happy.

Also don't put pressure on yourself if you need to stay with your parents a little longer don't beat yourself up about it take as much times as you need.

Recovering from anxiety unfortunately is a long process and you will get many set backs so you must keep in mind that set backs will happen and don't get discouraged just tell yourself ok today was a bad day but tmrw will be better.

I wish you all the best and I hope you get better I'm here if you need someone to talk to

[Sandraann21 in reply to Aazz]

Thank you so very much for replying I have woken up this morning TERRIFED like the Anxitey just freezers me with fear I put a brave face on to My parents they think I'm coping I'v now got insomnia since starting beta blockers, at this very moment my Anxitey is at its worst and am TERRIFIED

[Aazz in reply to Sandraann21]

Do you know what you are terrified of or you just feel terrified and don't know why. Beta blockers did nothing for me and made me low energy as the drop your blood pressure and I already am on the low side. A benzo type medication is what you probably need just to help you get through the mornings however I highly suggest seeing a therapist so you learn coping skills as benzos are highly addictive and have withdrawal effects. But taking a small size benzo when you really can't take it while you see a therapist should be idol. I take Valium and it really helps but I i my take it if I really can't cope

[Sandraann21 in reply to Aazz]

Thank you I'm sick of going the doctors and nothing working, I can handle this morning fear the pains to strong

[Sandraann21 in reply to Aazz]

I hope I don't offended anyone by saying this but does anyone feel like me that reading o this site all the time is not helping as your feeding and re living your Anxitey ???? I don't know if this is true I just feel so very bad and can't find away out of it

[Aazz in reply to Sandraann21]

Yes I find sometimes I feel worse especially one someone has a story that scares me. I also think it's just another way you are focusing on the anxiety. But at the same time sometimes it also helps me so much, I know what you mean.

[xogemxo in reply to Sandraann21]

Hi sandraann

I no it's the worst feeling ever ... but try telling your self your still here ... reassure ur self all tests have been done .... after a wile u will get fed up and learn to live withit let the beta blockers kick in ....

Start by writin out a plan now what your going to do Tomoro even if u don't do it it will keep urhead occupied .... jog r fast walk around ur livin room for 20 mins ... if u have a panic attack get on the floor and have it ... they can't kill ye so wen it eases off get bk up and take a walk to ur gate and luk around a bit ..... I hope this info helps ... and find a woman centre who does cbt ul meet new friends who's in the same line as u x

[xogemxo]

Hi edy hope ur feeling a little better now ... anxiety is a complete fuked but it sounds like your in the myths of it now but I promise it does get easier ... I cudnt leave thehouse at the start aswell ... get out and go to cbt, little walks at a time and talking it out with some one I'm still suffering but am able yo stay more calm about it but it comes and goes and begins to st bare able ... ps do not drink large amounts am suffering a 3 day hangover and completely anxious about it Lol .... breathing exercises also ... hope it helps ... ur not alone x

[Sandraann21 in reply to xogemxo]

Hi xogemxo, please could you read what I have sent to Aazz above this post it explains how Iam at the moment and would really value ur advice and help in anyway after reading your last post to eddy, hope you don't mind me asking but I need all the help I can get at the moment, many thanks

[kbaker1995]

Hey Eddy,

We are all here to help and support you the best we can, just post and I'm sure many of us will help as soon as possible.

We are all on this journey together! You are more than welcome to privately message me if you would like to talk

[Dollybee]

Hey Eddy,

You have to make a choice to take back control of your life. Sometimes we have traumatic and or life altering experiences and we began to live our life through these experiences on a day to day bases. Know yourself first and foremost. Find a good primary care doc and go and talk to him or her, you have to be your own advocate when it comes to your health especially your mental health. Just because one doctor said you were bipolar doesn't make it so. You have to know that there is something out there that exist that is greater than yourself. Whether you believe in God,Allah,Jehovah know that it exist . Pray, believe and relieve. I am sorry that you had to live through the experience of being bullied but you have to understand why people bully others and you being bullied by your neighbor and his or her daughter truly has nothing to do with you, you however were the unfortunate victim of someone else's misery. Miserable people target others to make theirselves feel better. What they projected onto you I promise that when they were alone with their self they felt 10 times as worst about themselves and the pain they inflictedon you.You cannot continue to let a person that did not care about how their actions made another person feel control your life.Love yourself for who you are God made you to be exactly who you are. Know that you are loved and instead of concentrating on and looking at the bad look at the things that you have to be greatful for. I suffer from severe aniexty attacks every night and I have severe pain every second of every day, but that is just 2 things that lets me know that I am alive. Don't let these things be your life, but just a small part of what happens in your life. Every morning when you wake up thank God for another day and think of 3 things to be thankful for start out with a positive attitude and let nothing or no one rob you of that. Know that we all have things we have to deal with and know that there is someone that has it far worst than you. I will give you one thing, you have parent that you can go to and depend on, both my parents are no longer here and I live in a city with no family, and I too for sometime went through something similar as what you feel until I got tired and took back my life. If you have had happiness before than there is happiness in you and you can have it again you just have to make that choice.Let these condition be only a small part of what happens in your day don't let them be your life. God Bless change your thoughts to change your life.