Okay so I am 13 and anxiety absolutely consumes my entire life. I can't sleep, I can't get out of bed and I can't eat. First of all, my weight stresses me out. I will go days without eating or eat less than 700 kcals a day. Every time I am at school I feel like everyone is staring at me and there's something wrong with the way I look or smell or how I am dressed or if I forgot to put makeup on and even worse, when they whisper I feel like everything they say is about me. Also, my mom lost her baby in November and is pregnant again and so I'm was looking up ways to prevent miscarriage and I saw the word stillborn and now I am physically incapable of forgetting it. It's on my mind all the time. Miscarriage, stillbirth, health issues, my mom dying. I need help. Please help me.

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  • Sounds like social anxiety mixed with fear of loss. If it's any consolation, I'll pray that your mother's pregnancy goes smoothly. Still births aren't very common, even less so than miscarriages I believe, but I can see why you'd be scared. Try speaking and thinking more positively. You've convinced yourself something is wrong. If you convinced yourself, you can unconvince yourself. Speak, out loud, that your mother's pregnancy will go smoothly and God has her in His hands.

    As for social anxiety, it often stems from low self esteem (I hope I don't sound like I'm making assumptions about you) so try to notice the way you speak to yourself. Do you constantly self criticize? Do you often think you haven't done well enough on something or consider your efforts a failure? If so, change those thoughts. Tell yourself you are awesome! You're really caring, as evident about your love for your mom and unborn sibling. Appraise your efforts! If you get an A in class, congratulate yourself! If you eat something healthy, be proud that you did! This can drastically change ones self image for the better. Message me if you want!

  • Hey at 13 you are so very young to have all this worry! Its most likely all in your mind that people are looking at you or talking behind your back(they might be giving u compliments) but us anxiety sufferers always think the worst! You need to talk to someone about how you are feeling! I also think you need to sit down with your mum and tell her your fears and perhaps the next time she sees her midwife you could also go along to see that all is well and ease your mind! You are bound to be upset and need to grieve for the baby brother or sister you lost in November.

    Don't go through this alone there are people who can help you through this,but your first port of call is your mum.

    Take care of yourself, and hope you find peace of mind about your mums pregnancy and you can look forward to helping out with your new baby brother or sister


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