Don't know what to do anymore.

I am 60 years old , I have anxiety and I think I am depressed,I feel dizzy and I get feelings that I am going to fall over , I read claire weekes books and listen to her tapes, in the past I have gotten a bit better although I can't travel far from home I don't go on holidays as I feel too ill, I haven't been anywhere for about ten years, I have a tablet phobia due to medication I was given when I attended a day hospital back in 1991, they put me on melloril to help me sleep and the side effects were dreadful I took anti depressants for a few years a well, I have been to my doctors hundreds of times with the some symtoms I have had counselling loads of times, but talking about now, I get up and feel so weak and dizzy, getting ready in the morning takes all day nearly , I get so tired in the evening it is hard for me to move I have had my tyhroid checked and at first in was underactive and then three months later it was normal, all the doctor can help me with is tablets and I am too scared to take them I try and think positive, I have no family just a son who is married and has his own problems and he also has crohns so I leave him alone , my husband has copd and I am his carer (don't laugh) yes I know sometimes when he gets ill we justt sit and look at one another especially if I am too ill to go out, I have sent a email to the patient watchdog but haven't had a reply, there are no support groups in my area for people with this anxiety disorder, I don't know what to do anymore, other than give up, I have felt very ill in the last few weeks I had a lot of stress so I suppose that is why I feel as I do, but sometimes I think this is something else and not anxiety, but as I said my tests come back normal, I have a appointment in a few weeks at the local hospital to find out if they can help me, I have in the past been referred to cfs clinic and they said my fatique was a emotional thing, whatever that means if any kind person knows where I can get the proper help for all this please let me know or any advice with vitamins . I take a teaspoonful of metatone as I have heard its good for fatique. Thank you

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I am 67 and feel exactly the same, it is depression and anxiety, it drains the body of energy, i make myself go out every day but its an ordeal, i too feel dizzy and unsteady on bad days. I have had all the tests over many years and they all come back normal. Did you lead a normal life before this, i struggled but brought my family up and worked, i live alone now.

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Thanks for the reply do you take medication, I still go out but it's a effort to walk sometimes but I persevere , you say your on your own haven't you got any family to visit you, yes I have a hard life, but we won't go into that it's the future that matters now I do have a feeling though , as my dad used to say it doesn't go to your boots all the things that happen so maybe that is why I am like this . I have always been a carer to my mum and dad and now my husband who has copd but he cares for me in a fashion we help one another, but sometimes this anxiety really gets me down as I haven't had a holiday for years as my husbands illness and me. I hope you don't feel too lonely. I used to go out on my own but lately I can't walk to the corner shop as my legs go weak and I feel as if I am going to faint, so I won't go, I know I should just do it but I haven't the confidence.

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Hello and welcome!

You are not alone in this.

Have you had your ears checked? Sometimes your dizziness could be from that.

I'd you've been ruled out for serious health issues keep that in mind that you are healthy as can be

And ask to have your vitamin/minerals in your body checked. I had border line low potassium and they said that can cause fatigue along with vitamin D

I recently got a vitamin bcomplex shot the first time it gave me a good boost for a few days slept better felt joy was laughing enjoying life. Then hypochondria hit and affected my rest of the dosages I had I couldn't give it a chance but also the day I got my first shot I was given a full body massage it could of been all tense muscles.

Hope you find your relief soon

And whenever you have a fear or think u can help someone come on here

Yaz

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I am taking metatone which has potassium in it I also eat bananas 2 aday I feel like a tired feeling and I want to cry with it if you understand like I am shattered I went to the hairdressers today as I had to because my hair was neglected due to not bothering and I didn't want to go, but I forced myself it was horrendous now I am drained , maybe there is no cure I am fed up keep asking for blood tests . As my doctor doesn't understand . I think I can't deal with stress and it knocks me back, my brother and older sister don't speak to me my only daughter lives abroad and my son has crohns and has children and a job and can't spend a lot of time with me and my husband is ill so maybe all this is draining me, I don't think I have the strenfh to keep pursuing my problems with my health. As it has gone on for so long.

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I do not take any medication now, i was on citalopram but came off it last year because of palpitations and missed heartbeats. My daughters both work and my son lives 100 miles away, i see them at weekends for an hour. I am separated from my husband, my choice because he was verbally abusive, ex police officer.

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I'm very close to you in age, 62, and feel as you do, dizzy, off balance and exhausted a good deal of the time. Sometimes I'd just like to do nothing, just lie there, butI have responsibilities I can't ignore. Have both parents in their 90s who need care - they have carers - but they still need other support to allow them to continue to live independently. My daughter and 2 grandchildren live with me and I help with them. I have 2 dogs and it's a real challenge taking them for walks - I'm so unsteady on my feet. My adult children are very understanding but when it comes down to it I have to deal with the feelings and symptoms. I try to continue to live my life and not to avoid doing things - I do want to feel like my old self. Recovery is possible - I first had anxiety at 18 but it went away and I was free of it for many years. I, too, don't want to take meds, I won't take alcohol for same reason - I tell people, I feel weird enough! My whole body is so tense, I think this is interferes with the balance mechanism. Tension fatigues the body and mind. Caring for others is very draining. I would suggest respite but probably like me you wouldn't want to be away from home! It helps to know others experience the same, especially when there are no local support groups - and I don't mean mental health depts - I mean groups run by people who have anxiety themselves, people who truely understand. There are so many people suffering alone who don't talk about it. At least we can here. I wish you well in days to come.

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Thanks for replying, my husband has copd and my son has just been diagnosed with crohns, he has children and is married, his wife hasn't spoke to me for 3 years and has never visited me, my daughter lives abroad, and my only brother stopped all contact with me when my mother died, so I have no one to help me or to talk to. I did everything for my mum although I could barely walk, when she had hospital appointments. It was a nightmare as I couldn't push the wheelchair or go up the moving lift, anyway that's the past, there's no enough kindness in the world, I have got I touch with the health watchdog about my husband and myself but haven't had any reply, I try and think posive and I have been trying to arrange going to the carvery for Boxing Day, if we can get there ha ha. I forgot to tell you, I have a older sister who lives a road but she doesn't answere any emails I send,and then it adds to your depression as you start to think its my fault and you start feeling bad about yourself. Very hard, I am glad tou see your children and you have a dog I used to have a dog called blue I had him for 12 years .he was a border collie. I don't think I could have another dog as I wouldn't be able to take him for a walk. Bye for now,