Peace of mind

[stde]

When the emotion of love is in your heart your mind is joyful.

the negative thoughts that we react to destroys this, ....anger,.........resentment,.........jealousy,.......guilt.etc

If you can see these as only thoughts and do not react your chances of serenity will increase.....

Practise Non-Reaction and you will see life in a different light..........

Life was never meant to go our way,and when it does it is a bonus......

Life is a play.......just observe without judgement...................GB...x

[josmitheram]

Oh my word! You have answered all my questions and made sense of my life. THANKYOU so much. I can totally relate. Forgetting my sad and unhappy past with your advice and moving to happiness and love xxx

[josmitheram]

What is Non- Reaction?

[stde in reply to josmitheram]

Lovely to hear from you, I had a choice during my suffering........to continue suffering.........or to change my thinking.

Part of my ongoing recovery was to look at myself.......as long as I had compassion and humility, my Ego disappeared and I was at peace.

As soon as I thought that I knew better, or that life owed me something, or that I was important (ha ha) my Ego had returned and the frustration of living in this world with all these stupid people who did not listen to me cause me mood swings.........

When things were going welll (or my way)...I was good

When things were not going to MY plan..I was frustrated and angry then anxious then depressed!

I slowly realized that my frustration and anger could arise even when i was passing judgement on things that were not my business. and furthermore who was I to think the world should revolve around me....totally absurd when you think about it as life owes you nothing but is a gift ,where if you do the right things then maybe the right things will happen!

So non-reaction to me was:-

To mind my own business and to refrain from getting involved in things that did not concern me..........I was not that important.........I stopped trying to save the world...........and hence stopped reacting

To allow others to be who they are........If people upset me I would try to realize that maybe they were just angry, unbalanced and had there own problems........so with this in mind if they reacted...I didn,t

To learn to bite my tongue (a hard one.ha ha).as my opinion should only be given when I was asked......not forced upon people..........I was always good at giving opinions.

And trying to understand that everyone was just different,......not stupid or clever or disabled...........just different.

I could go on and on.........but suffice to say that change did not happen overnight......I still have to work at it each day......and probably always will.

And if suffering comes I no longer own it or feed it as it will pass........I just view it as a visitor (not reacting) and see it as separate from my true self.

Thank you for your comment.......hope this helps..GBx

[josmitheram]

oh in my case its 'just say no' when i dont want to do something and dont worry about saying no. just say it and be happy that ive said the right thing for me. x

[stde in reply to josmitheram]

Always say no with a smile..........x