I can't cope with my life anymore, I want it all to go away.

[mazza10]

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Hi mazza & Welcome

Sounds like you are going through a bad time at the moment & we do understand how you feel but please believe me what ever you are going through there is help & it does get better even though you may not feel like it will at the moment , we have all had those feelings

How is your anxiety affecting you & are you taking any medication or getting any help ?

If you can expand a little on what is happening members will relate to you & we will try & help & you wont feel alone with the support they will try & give

Love

whywhy

xxx

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Morning Mazza

Welcome to the site, sorry you are feeling bad at the moment. I have just posted myself as I am struggling today, with anxiety and panic.

I have come on here and read others posts and am slowly calming down a bit.

Please keep posting and we will all support you.

gardener x

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Hi Mazza.

If you could just explain to us how your anxiety is effecting you I am sure there are people on here that have felt the same and will be able to offer you advice and support. We never judge anyone as we are all trying to cope with the same demon anxiety. Keep posting on here.

Kenny

[mazza10 in reply to Hidden]

I'm going through a nasty divorce

[mazza10 in reply to mazza10]

I'm going through a nasty divorce.

[Hidden in reply to mazza10]

Hi

I am sorry to hear this & I have been through a divorce & I know how much pressure & anxiety this can cause

Obviously I am not sure why it has turned nasty or if the divorce was something you wanted or you hubby wanted or maybe even both agreed to which can make a difference to how you may be feeling which ever one it is

Have you been & seen your GP & told them how you are feeling & struggling to cope , maybe some medication or counselling could be a huge help through this bad patch

Have you got family & friends you can talk to about how you are feeling ?

I know it may seem like the end of the world as when any relationship doesn't work out it is traumatic but you will get through this

Keep talking to us the more you can tell us will help us to answer & hopefully support you

xxx

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I know divorce can be a very overwhelming process, but if you talk to others it might lessen your burden. I fortunately have never been in your position but I can imagine how stressful it can be. Keep posting were always here.

Kenny

[mazza10]

I just can't cope me life is empty without my wife and my other two kids.I'm taking two 20mg of fluoxetin and still can't cope and feeling down and lonely.

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Hi Mazza.

Whywhy is right all may seem lost at the moment but things will get better. I don't know how long you have been taking Fluoxetine but with me it took 4-6 weeks to start fully working you will start to feel better and hopefully be able to adapt to everything.

Kenny

[mazza10 in reply to Hidden]

Monday 16th of December I was in work when my wife rang me to say she had taken her stuff and left the house and told me to come back and take the kids from her. a couple of weeks before this I was talking to my wife and I told her that the pressure was to much and I was thinking about committing suicide. the day she told me she left I lost the will to live and when I was on my way back I took 32 paracetamol tablets to try and end my life at that point i had to stop driving and sleep, I really thought I was going to die there and then . when My son found out the next day he managed to convince me to go to the hospital, where I spoke with the doctors and the crisis team in A and E. They told me it was to late for any antidotes and i had a 50/50chance of internal damage. thanking God I am all right. I have been to the doctors on several occasions about my depression, I have been talking fluoxetine since. but despite that, not having the six of us together has really upset me and the suicidal thoughts are still there . I offered my wife the house, the kids and I told her everything from bills to the shopping I would be pay for, I said to her just stay with the kids in the house and i would go back to work and stay in my digs, and i told her just think about it. Every day i site here lonely while the other two are at school hoping she will come back and just give me another chance. My wife is my sole mate and i am struggling to be here with out here. she went to the court to stop me seeing the kids completely. I hope she thinks through the situation again and gives me another chance o resolve the situation and I promise her, that her life will be 100x better. Thank you very much for listening.

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Oh bless you

Please forgive me if I get this wrong but is it that your wife was struggling with your depression & anxiety where she felt she couldn't cope any more ?

You should first not blame yourself because you are suffering with these things as none of us ask for this & it is an illness but we can & do get better even though it can take time

For loved ones it can be very hard for them to understand & know how we are suffering & can feel to much to cope with

Taking your life though wouldn't be an answer & even though you are not seeing your children at the moment you are still their Dad & at some stage I am sure you will get access again & they need to know their Dad is there for them so always think about that if you are feeling down

There is always the Samaritans you can talk to as well on

08457 90 90 90

Are you under any Mental health team & getting any support

If not I would go back to your GP & ask to be referred you really sound like you need some extra support & they can give it you

I am not sure why your wife went to court & what reasons she gave to stop you seeing the children altogether but even supervised visits if nothing else normally can be arranged

Have you got or seen a solicitor about this ?

It is very difficult I know , but you need to get yourself well first & as you do which you can do , then your wife will feel more confident if she has lost some in at least letting you have contact with the children again

I have to go of a while now but will look on later to see if you have replied as well as hopefully other members will have seen your post & be giving you advise as well

xxxx

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Hi

I am sorry I went on the user name & thought you were female it can be hard sometimes knowing if we are male or female till we get to know people better at first

I do understand though , it does feel so empty , it is going to ,it can be like a grieving process we have to go through but with time it does heal

Have you no access to see your children you are missing ?

Maybe if the medication is not feeling like it is helping , you need to see your GP again & they could either increase the dose or change them to something more suitable , I would go & ask

xxx

[anne1964]

Hi Mazza

Its a horrible time for you........ I have been through a difficult divorce which was a long time ago now and it is a horrible time especially when children are involved........... Im sure lots of people have been through the same thing so youre not alone................

Get what help you can from your gp and get yourself well............ In your down times remember that your children love and need you and will do for the rest of their lifes............ Dont take that away from them or from yourself........

You can get through this, we are all living proof of that........ Keep blogging on here and let your frustrations out........

We will help all we can to get you through xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Kimmieblue]

Hi Mazza

I feel for you, I really do. You must feel like you have hit rock bottom, but the only way now is up and you have so much to keep going for, there's your children for a start. They need you to be strong for them.

You won't always feel this way I'm sure. Your GP can raise your dose of the medication and if you can just bear with it and try to be positive you will begin to feel better.

Each person with anxiety and depression has a different set of circumstances, but with the proper help you can be well again.

Please hang on in there and push for all the help you can get, if there's any way you can not be alone for too long, that helps and also keep busy, that works for me.

Keep posting on here as often as possible because writing how you are feeling, especially on this forum (because we have all suffered similarly) will help you.

I wish you all the very best Mazza. X

[mazza10]

Kimmieblue,anna1964,kenn-w and whywhy thank you all for replying I have been trying hard to keep head up but I find it hard because I couldn't believe what my wife done, we have been married for 18 years and she is not the same person I knew from being nicest to horrible person I am really lost without my wife.

[Hidden in reply to mazza10]

Hi

Give it time 18 years is a long time & of course you will be missing her , this is a big change in your life but slowly a day at a time you will get through all this

xxx

[shadow45]

Im a day late with this response... but I hope you will understand when we all say that it will get better.... I have been married and divorced twice... the second marriage ended in a terrible court fight over money etc... When these things happen every bad thing that was ever said is brought to the surface and the mind cannot handle it. You will.. in time.. find a way to reconnect with your wife on some level.... trying to get someone back when they have decided to move on is impossible to handle emotionally... I begged my second wife made a complete fool of myself and showed her what a weak kneed a*s I was.. Which didn't help at all.... It just gave her more bullets to fire at me in court... You will have to regroup your self and get your life in order This will take time... 18 years is a long time. Try to get into counselling for your depression Go and talk to others about how they handled their marriages ending Im sure you must know someone who has had a bad break up You're not alone in this struggle.. And your not the bad guy. You have to be there for your kids... Post often and you will get some support from us ...Please take good care of yourself....steve

[mazza10 in reply to shadow45]

Thanks shadow45 the problem I've got my wife wouldn't speak to me at all. I tried to send text message no reply and that's why I am going mad

[shadow45 in reply to mazza10]

Hi Mazza.. Listen brother she not going to respond because she angry. I did the same thing when my second marriage failed I made a complete fool of myself. You going to have to calm down and then you'll be in a better place to pull a plan together. Trust me on this one as I know of what I speak... If you continue to show her how upset you are it will end up hurting you... You have to think of yourself and the children now.. I'm online for a while if you need to talk...steve

[mazza10 in reply to shadow45]

I know that I have to calm down but she is the one pushing hard and don't know what to do.

[shadow45]

I should say as well that I did manage to reconnect with my x wife after a year or so we even went out for lunch occasionally Now this was after she said all manner of terrible things to me when we split up I never thought it could happen but after some time she began to see the things in me she fell in love with when we first met...Time heals all wounds trite but true

[shadow45]

I`m sorry.... I don't want to upset you anymore than you already are mazza. If she is pushing hard I guess it means she is serious about making some changes in her life as well. Id say the best thing you can do is get to a GP and talk to a professional therapist Marriages end every minute of everyday Their are so many methods of coping with this particular problem I know what its like being in the eye of the storm.. so I wont say its going to be easy. I do feel you panic thought and that does worry me Can you tell me a little about yourself if you can...I also had a meltdown due to a relationship ending abruptly Almost on the same day Dec 18th I'm slowly recovering from that as well I found this site then.. and I have been given so much love and support... You will find a way out of this mess I know you will...

[Mysteryreader]

Dear Mazza sorry you are going through a bad time. If you could give us a little more info I'm sure there is someone on here that will be able to offer advice. Do you have friends or family that you could talk to or have you tried your doctor.

HUGS

MR

[Photogeek]

H. Mazza sorry to heR your going through a breakup and all the fallout.

It's a very difficult time but the thing that will help you is to make a plan.

Firstly your wife cannot force you to sell the house but you must go to

Solicitor immediately, phone on Monday and make appt. That is so important. If you

Want to be ready for her you need a solicitor.

Visit your Doctor and he may be also a useful ally if you need reports etc.

You will have to stay strong for your children, Did your wife say why she

Wants to end the marriage,

Please take al the support you can and come back her for support. I went through

A Divorce many years ago and it was very stressful, I had no children in the

Equation. Mazda you will get through, take it day by day and get your plan in

Place.

Kind regards

Hannah