I'm angry and hate myself for not standing up for myself. I do this all the time but it makes me very unhappy. I'm a very soft and friendly person. I let people say things or do things that offend me and dont say anything then worry about them later. Tend to bottle up things and not respond there and then, probably because i dont know what to say then or just for peace sake or fear but i end up being the one who is unhappy.
I've got the strange fear confident and assertive people as such i use short term survival strategy of being quiet or talk very little. As an incharge at work i struggle with decision making and talking to such people as such i find myself fearful,tense and anxious. This is making my life miserable.
I talked about this to my partner in the morning after work and felt better. I went to bed and slept well but the minute i'm up it all came back flooding my mind.I'm due to go for a Christmas meal with work work collegues this evening and i hate feeling like this. i was already contemplating not to go but my partner says i should go.