Confidence has gone...feeling anxious about the future.

[moley64]

On Wednesday I was feeling very positive about my future and had a sense of really moving forward.

Yesterday I had a succession of setbacks in different areas of my life. Firstly my aunt rang and told me about a family problem. I then received a call from an organisation who were looking to scam me for money. Instead of putting the phone down straight away I found myself thinking about paying them money. I only just managed to stop myself from falling into the trap. I so wanted the proposition to be genuine. I then carried out some research and felt like a complete idiot for nearly falling for the scam.

I do some voluntary work as a Treasurer and discovered some discrepancies with the accounts. Only small sums were involved. However I found myself getting into a panic about this. Had it not been for my Wife's calming influence I would have gone into a full blown panic attack. Whilst I have sorted out the accounts, told the scam company I am not interested and am as reconciled as I can be about the family problem, I still feel very anxious and panicky.

I cannot understand why this group of relatively small problems that I faced yesterday and seemingly sorted out have left me feeling so anxious and fearful of the future. It is as if my confidence has just been drained away. I have had to try very hard to not anticipate additional troubles.

Have you had any of these feelings.

Very best wishes

Moley

[nena]

Hi Moley, my confidence too has been zapped away. I think back to the person I was two years ago and feel so sad about what I have become now. I used to be so full of confidence that nothing could knock me.

Reading through your setbacks, I would say look at them in a different light... My friend received a scam call and did the same sort of thing almost getting to the stage of going ahead with it. I probably would too - they are very clever, and work on your hopes, that's why you wanted it to be genuine. You recognised it was a scam - don't you get a pat on the back for that?

The same with the accounts. Surely if you discovered the discrepancies, this is part of your role as treasurer. Its a good thing that you found them and dealt with them. As for the family issue, I don't know what it is, but surely its a concern that a number of people in your family share rather than a problem that you have to tackle alone.

I too had a very positive week and have had setbacks today and yesterday. I have to remind myself that I am still that same person I was two years ago with all the skills, personality and training that I gained compliments for. Setbacks need to be brushed off. There are some things you can't control, but you can certainly control your worry over them and it sounds like you are lucky enough to have a wonderful partner to support you and share those things with. Hope that helps, and good luck - we're in the same boat.

[moley64 in reply to nena]

Hi nema,

Thanks for your very helpful message.

Like you I had a period in my life when I felt that I was able to cope with anything. I think that what has really knocked me is that I thought that I really returning to being my old self. I find myself being very critical of any mistakes or errors that I make, yet I am not harsh on other people.You are right that setbacks need to be brushed off as quickly as possible.

Hope all goes well for you.

M

[LizM40]

Hello Moley, I have had setbacks too, but don't let them get you down. Discuss your worries with your family and its a weight off your mind. Keep doing what you are doing..keeping busy and do not answer calls to numbers that you do not recognise. I am sure you will feel alot safer and calmer. Count to ten and brush yourself down. LizM40

[moley64 in reply to LizM40]

Thanks

M