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[Vmxkey]

I know this sounds silly but I need to talk to someone about it, if you go on my previous post I explain about anxiety about a dream I had. Does anybody know how to get rid of death anxiety? I feel like everything is a bad omen. Like when I go see family my mind will go to “this is the last time you’ll ever see them” and plus I’m keep saying Angel numbers. I know this may sound silly to some , it sounds silly to me. But I cannot control it and it’s controlling me. I just really need help

[Agora1]

Hi Vmskey, I've had many dreams during my lifetime along with some very realistic

nightmares. The dreams I know can be the mind trying to bring to light the problems

we deal with every day. Sometimes resolutions can be determined through a dream.

Dreaming or having death anxiety really has nothing to do with dying. More so, with

one of the chapters of our lives ending and starting a new path. Changes for an Anxious

person is scary in itself. As we are challenged each day with different choices we must

make, the subject of change being the end comes up in our subconscious mind.

One of the things we fear is not having control over situations. That's normal but not

worth worrying about. Believe me there are more things that we have control over

than we don't.

Taxes, Weather, Being Born & Dying happen. If we spend time in worrying about

death (which is inevitable for all of us, then it leaves us with less time to live.

As for nightmares, our brain is meant to protect us. Throughout the night 5% of our

brain tunes out. the other 95% is the subconscious mind that is on alert throughout

the night. watching over and replaying back the day's events. It is at this time that

we may start dreaming what our subconscious mind is thinking. If you want to have

a better night's sleep w/o worry and stress, I have found that Meditation & Breathing

are a way to go into a deep REM sleep. A regenerative form of mind and body

restoration. The brain can't think of 2 things at once. So if you are feeding it the

positive words of a Mindful Meditation, then fearful subjects tend to leave you. xx

[Spurdog1 in reply to Agora1]

Anxiety is right and natural, but the level of it is not. This is not a silly thing as you call it. The best venue for this is your doctor and cbh

[Spurdog1 in reply to Spurdog1]

Correction CBT, Behavioural Therapy.... Referred by the GP, He'll direct you to someone to talk to, regularly

[dptuller]

I think it’s perfectly normal to have those kind of feelings because I have had those feelings too, and it comes from a fear of abandonment or a fear that we will abandon our loved ones somehow by not being around. I don’t know what faith you have, but I can assure you there is a lot of good energy out there in the universe that’s looking out for you that you don’t even know you have– and I think that you are going to be just fine, and I think your family will be fine and anything that happens. I know you’re ready for and you’ll be able to handle and especially because I know you will be there for your family. At every opportunity and I don’t mean to for this to sound silly either do or say something in a small way that lets your family and friends know that you love them and that you are grateful they’re in your life and if you want to say that directly to them, it might actually help make their day a little bit brighter and I know it will make your day brighter. After you have been able to accomplish this, then you can teach me how to do it because I’m still learning too.

[cashew78]

A thought occurs to me because, though only occasionally, I would have the same sort of problem. I did and still do have problems with fixating on ideas and believing that they are a foregone conclusions; the damned thought running on repeat and returning unwantedly. Something that helped was attending a few anonymous support group sessions with a local OCD support group. Because they have either severe compulsions or severe obsessions (or both), they have a great insight in the mechanics of why we fixate, ideas and suggestions for coping strategies that help, and are understanding and supportive. Just because I don't have an OCD diagnosis didn't mean that there aren't helpful tidbits I could pull from it. Don't misrepresent yourself if you decide to sit in and listen, but listen in if you're comfortable and if they'll have you; they offered me some great insights. It won't help address what you're describing entirely, but it may help you pick apart the aspects where the thoughts just seem run on repeat and help allow you to get a measure of control back. Good luck.