Over thinking

[Wild_one_92]

Hello all. I’m wondering if you can help?? I’m the type of person who over thinks and when I do think it’s always negative. I read into things too much too. Is there anyone who can advise me on how to control or stop it please. I’ll give you a theoretical example. You buy a present for someone then you doubt they’ll like it and you over think thinking about the situation when you give someone the present like you picture them throwing it back at you although it’s not the case at all. Sorry it could be a bad example.

Hope everyone is having a nice Monday

[malbec_outa_the_box]

I have done the same thing. What helps me is to remind myself that this is just a few min of my life, this feeling is not forever. Also to remember how important the thing you are worrying about is. If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t give it more than 5 min.

I also find it helpful to bounce my worries off someone else. They usually tell me that I’m overthinking and can help bring me down. Maybe we could support each other in that ? 😊

[teemo1]

Hi Michaela,

Here is an article that might be helpful:

Hi Michela,

markmanson.net/your-two-minds

[Wild_one_92 in reply to teemo1]

Hello teemo1 thank you for the article. I shall have a look. Thanks again. X

[Wild_one_92 in reply to teemo1]

OMG I just read it. That was really helpful thank you. 😊 how do you know about this stuff if you don’t mind me asking? X

[teemo1 in reply to Wild_one_92]

Glad you liked it! I stumbled across his website when googling "best books for managing anxiety," and an article he wrote on that topic came up. Then I read pretty much all of his other articles and his self-help book. It's helped me out quite a bit.

If you have some time and don't mind strong language and a bit of crude humor, I'd recommend going to Articles and then Best Articles at the top of the home page. You'll likely find a lot more of interest.

markmanson.net/

[newcomit6]

try to think in positive way

[Wild_one_92 in reply to newcomit6]

I find it so hard to x

[newcomit6 in reply to Wild_one_92]

i feel like we trapped in a cage

[Wild_one_92 in reply to newcomit6]

Tell me about it x

[newcomit6 in reply to Wild_one_92]

11th months ago i got sick on 5th January with flu and i sat in my car in cold dusty weather but when i went to the hospital the doctor asked to lay on the bed in Emergency Room while he checking the water level in my veins suddenly i felt scared of death because i lost my father in October 2016 then i took 40MG of Cortosne then in march i started going then i went Psychiatric Clinic he give me seroxat 20mg pills when i take for months i feel i can eat and dont wash my hands alot its been over a month i didn't take it i don't want to live my life with pills i was living happy joyful life i am sorry if i said this i had thoughts in my mind saying sex is best thing to calm and cure me from what i feeling many things make me avoid anger like music, cars,videogames , and former world war 2 mono planes

[newcomit6]

try to think in positive way

[rtscd8]

Hey mlou16, I've been there. I completely understand if it's interrupting your life, but sometimes for me with things like that...I try to allow myself the grace to say that what I'm thinking about is okay for a minute or so. I look at it from a different angle...it's usually that "overthinking" that helps me be more sensitive to family and friends, or see a possible outcome of a situation. I see the overanalyzing something like "Did I buy the wrong present" as just another side of it. I know God made me this way for a reason and I believe the same with you. Now, I don't believe this means if it's taking over your life that this means you should just be ok with it. But...maybe you just need to see the other side of it! Praying for peace for you though. Glad you reached out.