Overwhelming feelings

[Pinkblack76]

I keep sitting down and staring at everything around me and thinking about what needs done still and never actually doing them because of worrying so much about everything going wrong. I work 2 jobs, technically 4 if you include being a carer and mother for my family and it's just all getting too much too fast, on top of everything we're worried about our finances and affording everything. I also don't have any friends to talk to about any of this because I'm not very good at making conversation.

[Starrlight]

hi I can relate a bit and one thing that helps me is walks with my dog to get away from the job thoughts and carer roles and also my therapist is an angel and helps me feel way more together in life.

Do you have a therapist?

[Pinkblack76 in reply to Starrlight]

Yh I try to walk with my daughter to school and it helps a little bit and if I am honest I don't have a therapist, I just keep putting it off saying that I haven't got time to go to therapy.

[Starrlight in reply to Pinkblack76]

That’s good walking can help. Think about therapy if you decide you have time. I know some go once or twice a month or so instead of each week. If you don’t like it, you could always look for something else.

[No_Longer_Human]

Sounds so rough. Im the same and im not even working or in a relationship and still can't deal. Overwhelm paralysis. You are a hero. You sound like my mom and it's making me sick i can't help her especially with the finances. I just want you two to be okay. Something that helped me writing the things i have to do down instead of repeating them in my head. Sometimes I don't even want to do this. I write them with "most priority" and "can be done tommorow". Also nervous system rests. Like just a walk, shower, breathing. I found out that even things i like like videogames and media are overwhelming me. Maybe you can draw or play with your kids so you both rest and not feel guilty. I was really triggered by kids but when i act like im a kid too, it was actually fun. For the first time for 24 years i win a game of dodgeball. Doesn't matter that the other team was half my size. Joking. Just healed some inner parts of me. Yet ik with your own kids it's different so maybe try doing something for yourself even if it's just a quick nap.

[Hidden in reply to No_Longer_Human]

Your words were very clear and help me a lot thank you

[No_Longer_Human in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I'm glad. I thought my mind was distorted

[Pinkblack76 in reply to No_Longer_Human]

Thank you so much for understanding, I don't really see myself as a hero though tbh I feel like a failure because we are losing our home and I can't do anything to help with my husband's pain.

[No_Longer_Human in reply to Pinkblack76]

That doesn't mean you are not a hero. That means you are through a lot. And it doesn't define you as a person. You are doing everything you can and you are protecting your children. I see mom as the hero she is now, especially when i can't even function, leave alone work, but she put me through some things because she had it heavy. It is heavy. Your feelings are valid but you don't have to listen to them as if they're facts. Things are subjective