How to cope when I am so guarded

[BigBlueMerle]

I find myself as a middle aged man to be dealing with depression on a daily. I try to stay busy with work and my daily life but sometimes understanding a reason to continue is difficult. I have made many mistakes and dwell on my past and actions to the point of paralysis. Everyday I strive to keep going and keep a good schedule but there are days that crush me.

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Me too! Past makes me so depressed and angry! I wish I could deal with things differently. Nowadays I just concentrate on the present, now moment and accomplish more that way.

I try to make up for the past but know it isn't enough. But life goes on and what to do really when you can't help thinking about it all. Big regrets and shame and guilt.

We have to support each other to do next best things in life! Or just make it/survive!

[BigBlueMerle in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

Thank you for responding

[tiggra]

I can relate, sometimes people or situations get to you. I had a day like that yesterday, but I got over it. I refuse to let it conquer me. I'm trying to move forward and make the best of my life and try and help myself more, because people keep letting me down. I'm partially disabled and use a walker and have to have some help, but it doesn't always work out. The point is, I want you to know you're supported, so don't give up.

[BigBlueMerle in reply to tiggra]

Thank you

[In-progress431]

Hello,

I’m middle aged and deal with anxiety daily as well. I don’t have much advice other than self-compassion.

Suffering is a human condition and we’re all allowed to feel it sometimes.

I can have 5 days of decent, anxiety-reduced days and the only day I’ll remember is the day where my anxiety was difficult.

It’s tough…

[Dimlight in reply to In-progress431]

I know what you mean by that. It feels suffocating and feeling every inch of your heart pounding . I suffer from it everyday I don't get a break and same as you I wish there was that one day I was relaxed and not worried. You just have to take it one step at a time. It will eventually get better. I'm here to support you and don't let it get you. Fight it , it will get better. I'm suffering too but I know it will eventually get better. Just believe

[In-progress431 in reply to Dimlight]

Appreciate it, I really do. I hope you find your sweet spot and move forward every day as well.

Hope is one of my centering tools sometimes.