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How to cope with depression?

I'm having trouble dealing with things lately. It seems the simplest of tasks are just becoming harder and harder to accomplish. I'm struggling with how to not fall into an ugly pit of despair and isolate myself. In the end I'm more miserable than when I started, knowing this you would think I could do something about it but somehow without a warning I'm there, in the pit, alone.

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You will not be alone here!! We are all here ready to listen, share our stories, and provide endless encouragement towards you and all the goals you wish to achieve. I am very sorry you are depressed. It’s a difficult disease to deal with and most people don’t understand which in the end makes you feel alone. We understand and we will not let you go through this by yourself.

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Thank you!

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Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I am so very sorry to think another is suffering as I am.

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I'm sorry you're dealing with this as well. It's not something I wish on anyone. I've been trying to come up with different ways/habits to address my issues but find it hard to succeed. Tomorrow is a new day.

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For me...it has been life. Plus, my so-called husband , psychologically abusive so not illegal, is divorcing me. I am a total mess and do not know how to be financially stable for my sons. He is living here still. I cannot live with his smug hatred. I have been almost okay. Now, I shall have no insurance (I am bipolar 2,) and I must support us all. I down everyone. I am all alone in every way possible.

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Divorce definitely doesn't make it any easier. And I'm sure having to see each other in this mess just adds fuel to the fire. How many sons do you have? Are they older/younger?

Whenever you feel the need to vent feel free to reach out. It's helped me a time or two. Sometimes just knowing there's someone else who truly understands helps me think more positive.

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I really, really appreciate your response. I have 2 sons, special needs and sweet and brilliant, ages 18 and 20. Again, I really appreciate your listening. Not many so-called crisis lines did but I do get a call once a week to see if I am alive. Hah! Like I will answer THEM.

That is the one thing I really hate...why must I be humble and oh, so nice to bullies? Why is the horrid and nasty lawyer that I supposedly retained, (and he charged me $500.00 for a call he made to me. He screamed, humiliated and whatever at me for a full hour. I am too poor to bother with. He went on vacation for 2 weeks where he would see if I contacted his staff in any manner,) anyway, HE says my husband lives here, I must be very nice to him and that when he leaves so does any financial assistance. $25 is good enough for food and all for the boys, myself, and the beasties. No alimony or help. That is because it is extra work for him.

So, I reiterate. Why must I be nice to an extremely abusive jerk who wishes me dead and pushed me to OD?

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Gosh that's heart breaking to hear. 😔 No one should ever make anyone feel like that. I'm so glad you're here and well enough to share your story. It's a constant battle every day and I'm proud of you for still trying. You're here, sharing, and it's a start.

I've struggled with learning my own self worth for years. I used to have such a bright outlook on life and then the abuse and cheating and lies from my husband began. I thought it was all my fault somehow. After time I realized it's not my fault. It's been two years and it's rough sometimes but little by little the good outweigh the bad.

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Excellent to hear that one can recover.

I did come straight to him from a family that wished me dead, (I was told that constantly,)my sister actually spit on me ...no childhood safety or love. I was not fed, was tortured, and not allowed most things, like private thoughts, going to the bathroom and saying 'I.' (I wet myself in public at age 13) I lived in fear of Jehovah as I was told he would strike m,e down. Did not!

I survived because animals protected me and taught me loyalty and love, often at the cost of their lives. A teacher snuck me phonetics. I was thus able to teach myself how to read. Then... I escaped them by marrying.

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Oh no, I'm so sorry. Look how strong you are!!! ❤ To endure all that and be where you are. You have such a passion to excel that you taught yourself how to read!!! Not many can say that! You are an inspiration! I hope you see that for yourself one day.

It's not an easy road. Some times you end up making u turns and getting lost but as long as you find yourself back on track you're headed in the right direction. And don't forget there's never ever anything wrong with stopping and asking for directions!!! ❤

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Well said! Although, I hate asking for help. Now, I must and find only closed doors. At least, so far. I am rather shocked to hear that I could be inspirational. I have never heard anyone say very much positive about who I am. Now, to me, YOU are truly a breath of mountain air. So clear and fresh.

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Have you been to a good doctor or two?I would really like to know whether or not Doctors help people with depression!If so ,then great ! If you tell me you have tried and it did not succeed ,maybe another Dr. MAY have a better approach or method.

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I have/had a psychiatrist and therapist. Both said I will never be anything but depressed. Oh, well. It is almost 6 and I am feeling it both physically and emotionally.

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Watch ""A glass of water" An inspirational story" on YouTube

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Thanks, I shall.

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Just stopping by to say hello and let you know I thought of you today. ♥ I hope you're having a good day. One day at a time. ☺

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Hi!

I discovered that most of my depression is from the toxic resentment of my soon to be former, husband. I am much better. (Still like jello but it is so nice to not have a home where one is absoluted hated and loathed!) Oh...things are not turning out like he planned. MY lawyer is rebutting and making his life rather miserable. The friend he is staying with will not even let him eat dinner with him. My neighbor, and her teenage daughter, that he was stalking told him to get lost. NOW he texts me when I wrote to go away, very nicely, that I am hateful and he wishes to be with the boys and me again. He actually wrote: "I thought the divorce would be good for us where we could be friends again..."

Really delusional! This is the first time all can be themselves, unafraid, and without nastiness.

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Sounds like things might just be turning around for you!!! I'm so happy to hear that you're doing much better!! ❤ ☺

Keep up the great work! Smile, knowing that you're moving in the right direction. 😊 We're all rooting for you!!

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Your not alone! I have been dealing with the same thing! Im trying hard not to fall into the pit but i feel im already there. I feel im barely getting by with no motivation.

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I hope you're doing ok!!! I'm feeling a bit better. Today was a good day!! ☺ Tha k you so much to you all for just talking to me and getting my mind out of its rut! ❤

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