Navigating the loss of my pet and potentially my marriage.

[MissMissy21125]

My husband left on September 2023 and has not been home since discovered he had a girlfriend as of January of 2024 and by January of 2025 I was ready to file for divorce with having no contact with my husband for almost 6 months due to needing to get health insurance since my husband had lost his job and had a swore up and down that he was not going to add me to his insurance at his new job when his 90 days were up right before I was going to sign up for insurance he reached out stating he was going to put me on his insurance and he wanted to work on our relationship so I declined the insurance he has yet to get us set up with insurance and he has hit his 90 days and so I don't know if he's going to follow through or not so I have to make the decision of whether or not to file for divorce because that's going to be the only way for me to get insurance now

[optimismrus]

Hi MissMissy, I'm sorry you're going thru a divorce - it's the worst. And on top of that you have to worry about insurance for yourself. And you're grieving your dog. That's a lot of stuff to process. If you've decided that you don't want to work things out with your husband, I'd say get your own insurance and cut those strings. If you want to try to save your marriage that's different and very important for your family. Only you can decide. We're here to listen and support you. 🥰

[Lifesearching]

Hi there, I’ve also been betrayed in my past also, upon discovering a pair of shorts in an exes drawer years ago. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. No woman even deserves this kind of treatment from a man at all. I know how hard it is to cut ties with men we fall in love with even after they betrayed us in the worst way. But if you can, cut him off completely and file for that divorce! You can do this without him! Excuse my French but I can’t stand men who think they can keep two women in their life he doesn’t even deserve you in his life sister. He is making this illusion that you need him but it’s the other way around!! And he did not follow through which means he’s a liar. He waited until you were about to be free to pretend to work on your relationship girl run from him.Dead serious he’s a manipulator who’s trying to keep you tied to him. Help him understanding the weight of his actions by removing yourself and going COLD. If you have to communicate keep it short and dry.

It sounds insensitive but do not feel sorry for him because he had no issues treating you the way he did. I say work on find insurance for yourself if you can and leave him out of it all if you want. You get to move on and start fresh. It’s up to you what you want but as another woman you deserve so much better and will end up winning in the end. Cheaters never get the last laugh. He’s going to end up coming back later but you’ll have already moved on! Allow other men, multiple men to take you on dates and be nice to you even if it’s not serious or committed you deserve it. As a disclaimer it’s all preference but I think if you are single it’s ok to have multiple dates as long as they know you’re dating and not serious💙💙

[TangledUpIn in reply to Lifesearching]

Kind of a harsh reality, but I totally agree with what you have said!

[Lifesearching in reply to TangledUpIn]

Hoping I don’t sound harsh at all🥺I just know how hard it is to see the situation when ur in it, especially if u have true love for the person which she sounds like!! I want the best for who this is, and if it were my actual sister I would say the same! I’ve been cheated on so many times before, and I have a passion for either exposing them or them not getting the last laugh

[CLB1125]

asking this, don’t want the answer because it’s none of my business but for you to think about. Are you working? Are you below poverty level? You can find out on gov.com. If you are you have the option of applying for Medicaid through your state. It might be called something different in your state. It’s an option to consider. I agree with the others. He is using insurance to control you. Make a clean break. Nothing will change with him.

I’m sorry for the loss of your pet. I lost my dog in November. Still hurts a lot.

[BoardGamer]

I'm really sorry that you are going through this. I have never been through a divorce myself, but my parents went through a really messy divorce when I was 15/16, and I remember how hard that was. We also lost my childhood dog and cat during that time, which was awful. Pets become such an important part of our family, so when we lose them it feels like losing a loved one. I know it is really difficult now, but things do get better, at least in my experience! Remember that your bad days do not define you, whatever happens, you will get through it!