I asked him to leave for the day and night. I simply cannot stop major depression hitting me with such a poisonous, loud buffoon. So, he asked "so, you want me to leave? I can now legally. You want me to mow the lawn, not do dishes...and go?" I texted him back, (only way we communicate,) and replied, "yes, exactly!" So, he left. However, he decided to take my eldest to Lunar Golf, which is extremely worrisome. He told him NOT to ever help around the house. My son has Asperger Syndrome, plus, a serious mood disorder. My husband convinced him not to take the medications that helped him with his moods, delusions, and hallucinations. Now, he also convinced him not to accept support and health insurance.
Now, my once loving son, at 20, loathes me tremendously. He strongly identifies with my husband so, is surly, steals, and lies. He also no longer is kind or does chores. He is dropping out of college and his dream of working his way up Embassy Suites became being a permanent busboy. Now, he keeps coming home, cutting work, I believe saying that they did not need him. I got him to empty the dishwasher with me. I said something about work being easier in the company of each other. He was revolted and disgusted by me. He told me that I "creeped him out." My husband obviously got to him.
My youngest is afraid of being abandoned. His father let him know that in no certain terms that he was "a loser." At 12, his father forced him secretly not to take his medications. My son is Bipolar. So, pretty much on his birthday, my son had a full psychotic break. Due to testosterone shots to help him gain puberty, my son gained a massive amount of weight. Before, he was very popular. He is smart and funny. He is also, very deep. Sensitive, this harmed him, as well. I did hypnosis with him. He regained an integral part of himself back...his humour.
Anyway, he has horrible nightmare and calls out "mommy!" (He never referred to me as 'mommy' before.) He is terrified of being abandoned as my husband told him that if he stayed with me my son would find himself homeless. Nice. My son is also, rightly upset because I am very upset about his father and brother instead of noticing he is always there for me. He suffers greatly in joint pain. I got him in physical therapy. He also avoid taking care of himself or grooming at all. He has not brushed his teeth for a very long time. In order to help him, I have made a dentist appointment but, due to a family emergency, his dentist won't see him for 2 weeks. My son has promised to take better care of himself afterwards. His skin is painfully sensitive. Showers hurt him. He banged against a tissue box when he sat. It turned his skin red.
So, anyhow there is life. I went to a pro bono lawyer yesterday. Actually, Friday. They will call me in 3 days. All hinges on me getting proper legal aid. Then the workforce in helping me go to school, a chapter 7 lawyer which will enable me in being considered for a much higher paying job here, with full benefits and tech school. So, it is a lot.
2 humorous (very slightly, points the day before, My spouse had to attend a divorce/parenting class for 4 1/2 hours. He was the only male. There was also 7 women who HATED there husbands AND him.
The other, is not really humorous, more like a Hah! He went out in front of the neighbors to shout how ' he had to cash OUR son's college certificates for food due to my extravagance.' I retorted "You mean YOUR lawyer." He went away muttering my lawyer cost too.