Learning to let go of a broken relationship and feeling empty

[SaphireSky]

I spent my youth loving someone who left me. Then became a Christian and waited 13yrs for a godly relationship. The recession hit in 2008 and I lost everything and reconnected with the love of my youth. Now 14yrs later I am grieving that same loss again. I made unwise decisions that lead me here. Now I'm just trying to feel like my normal self but having a hard time pulling out of this bad bout of depression.

[Hurtingheart2]

oh wow you hav no idea I just logged on here looking for some help and encouragement maybe or even something that seemed like what I’m goin through in just in such a low scared place goin through something very similar I think as you?? Maybe littl different but I seem to be grieving and heartbroken trying to process what has gone wrong how to cope!!

[SaphireSky in reply to Hurtingheart2]

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling as well. I usually use distraction as a coping tool. My hobby offered some relief for a while until it became a little too challenging in my current state of mind so I am taking a break tonight.

Try to find comfort with whatever coping skills work at this time. Pay attention to all the physical senses sometimes that can distract from repetitive thoughts.

Hang in there!

[Hurtingheart2 in reply to SaphireSky]

Thank you soo much I really appreciate it I feel similar I can’t even do the things I’d normally enjoy soo much !!💞I hope you will feel better soon as well! Yes I’ll try to do what you suggest as well thank you ☺️

[SaphireSky]

Yes same here, things I enjoyed don't feel the same. But the spark is still there, sometimes it just takes some inspiration to get the fire going again. I tend to be repetative with TV shows I like. I have it on even if I'm doing something else. I take some measure of comfort in the familiar.When everything seems too difficult or overwhelming I rest when I need to and try to do one thing at a time.

Best wishes to you. Keep going, you got this!

[Cpearl in reply to SaphireSky]

I'm the same with the TV every evening, especially when I'm eating. I just need to hear someone else's voice. Since my husband passed it's been really hard being alone. Not so much in the daytime as it's like he's at work or off fishing or something. But it really hits me when the evening comes and he's not here for dinner anymore. Hope you find comfort...

[Weatherwoman in reply to Cpearl]

Oh, I am So sorry for your loss. Understand, as I lost my Sig. Other two years ago. We were together for 27 years. I now live alone & have the TV on when home All the time. I am not paying attention to what's on, just have it on for the background noise. I do have a Grief Support Group online, and that helps some. Hugs to you!

[SaphireSky]

I am so sorry for your loss! I find i like documentaries for the sound of someone talking and an interesting subject keeps my mind occupied. I hope you have a support network of friends and family during this time. I wish you well.

[Hurtingheart2 in reply to SaphireSky]

I really need this I hav a few ppl that are very caring I reach out to and talk with as often as we are able but I need a group more local to me or friends I can talk with more regularly I just don’t know how exactly to connect with them??