Will good come out of the bad?

[worthytobeloved]

New Year started off so well for me. I felt good and had plans to do a lot of things, as well as just trying to have a peaceful time before things got busy next week.Then came a phone call from my 93 year old relation in Milton Keynes, saying that she had fallen and could I come and look after her. So I've booked a train and will be going today.

The thing is (and this is what I'm worried about), I'm so scared of being out of my comfort zone. Because of long-lasting agorophobic feelings, I'm scared of going out into the big, wide world, and because of continuing body dysmorphic disorder I have to take ages to do my hair and face, and feel awful if I don't look the best I can.

When I calm down, the message I'm getting from this is that maybe this scary experience will show me I can let go of my insecurities. When I look back, I've seen good eventually come out of bad experiences.

Please think of me! There won't be Internet where I'm going, and I'm going to miss you all. xxx

[Shnookie]

U R very brave and doing a good deed by going to take care of your relative.

[worthytobeloved in reply to Shnookie]

Thank you.

[Shnookie in reply to worthytobeloved]

You are very welcome.

[BorachioHatpeg]

Thank you so much. I've been housebound with agoraphobia for 15 - 20 years and just started trying again 6 months ago with mixed results depending on your perspective (I don't feel like I'm getting better but others around me keep telling me I'm doing great). I would love to think that I could handle such a situation someday. You should be very proud of yourself. I think what you are doing is truly inspirational.

[worthytobeloved in reply to BorachioHatpeg]

Thank you. Firstly, I'd like to say how much I like your name!!! I've read your bio, and I'm so sorry for all you have had to suffer.It sounds like you are doing well in just thinking about going out (that takes courage in itself), and then actually doing it. Just do it when the time feels right, and don't worry if you don't feel like it (that's self-presevation)! Do you find it easier to go out when you are with someone? I certainly did.

You've suffered for a while so the negative feelings are what you're used to, but over time it will get easier, and then there will be times when it doesn't bother you at all.

Best of luck! xxx

[worthytobeloved in reply to BorachioHatpeg]

Hi. I just wanted to get back to you about something that might help. I get emails from a man who runs a website to help people with social anxiety by using EFT (emotional freedom technique) or 'tapping'. He is running a free 30 day course on how to do it. I'm trying to do it to help myself with the problems I still have and, if nothing else, am finding his explanations of why we feel as we do, very helpful. Best of luck!

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[RS1974]

I pray it all turns out well 🙏 Take care 🙂

[worthytobeloved in reply to RS1974]

Thank you! x

[RS1974 in reply to worthytobeloved]

You're welcome sweetie 🥰