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How do I make myself happy?

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I have no one looking out for me, no one cares about me. When I try to share my feelings with someone they invalidate it and put all the blame on me. They make me feel like scum, my self esteem is getting lower and lower and I feel like a rat not worthy of life. I'm so stressed and overwhelmed with the people in my life and work, it's eating away at me, I feel so drained of life and have no will to even get out of bed everyday. When ever I speak to the people in my life, they gaslight and manipulate me so I feel as though it is hopeless and impossible ever be happy.

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gajh

Hello and Welcome. I care about you. I am glad you have joined us. There is a lot of support available here.

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FrankP183

If you’re fragile and sensitive, read no further because I’m not one to blow sunshine up your skirt. Stop letting other people define your worth. Get out and move: go for a walk, a run, do something physical and productive, and define it yourself. You know yourself better than anyone; do something that makes YOU feel good! Me? I took it a step farther, and destroyed myself. The hardest things you will do in this life are faith and forgiveness. Trust God. He will always put you exactly where you need to be, and He will give you everything you need when you get there. Forgiveness starts with yourself. I’m working my way through stopping myself from punishing myself because I’m not who I thought I was told I should be. The toughest part is that first step. You are not alone, there are many here, and in your life who are pulling for you. For me, I THINK I’m alone, so I isolate myself and convince myself that everyone else is against me. I cannot tell you how often I’ve been proven wrong. Remember this: God has a reason for everything, and that reason is always good for us. Also, we only get stronger through struggles; hardships are a blessing.

Welcome to the forum. From my lived experience, if you haven't put together a toolbox of coping strategies, it's time to call in the professional big guns, a psychologist for a short course of talking therapy.

Admitting you have a problem is one thing. Making that first appointment can be harder still for some people.

There is lots of good information about the first step to finding psychologic relief on the internet.

Since Covid-19, therapy is now available either as in person visits or online. Go with the best option for you.

All the best 🐈‍⬛

No one knows you better than you. Toxic people want you to think otherwise for their own selfish reasons. They're so miserablble with themselves that they're willing to drag you down with them.

You're right in knowing that your happiness, and all the rest, is in your own hands. Take back your personal power. Pamper yourself whenever you get the chance and ignore the critics.

Fear often keeps us under the thumb of a toxic relationship. Have Faith In Yourself above all else.

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CLB1125

welcome you have received excellent advice. We know that feeling you are feeling. If we don’t take care of ourselves and protect us from all the gaslighters and others that want to see us fall in the mud , no one will. The only person that truly knows our self worth is ourselves!

Currently going through this as well in my daily personal life

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CanYouHearMe

you have found the right place. Here I have found people the really understand provide support and show compassion for what you are experiencing! It feels good to know you are not alone and that someone really gets it.

I am personally working my way out of these very sane feelings,

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Phillyyo1

I feel the same way iliketinkerbell.

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