So so so confused

[Easilycrushed]

Im thinking of selling my house. Theres just so many memories of my ex and his kids...ive been trying to be positive but why spend thousands of dollars revenovating the old house when i dont want to live in town and i dont want to live in the house where i was lied and cheated on and disrespected. When i walk into the house im hit with the good and bad memories and how much i was used and how much i did trying to make things better when he made things harder. He pulled me farther from god and my values....i dont know if i can mentally and emotionally handle living in that house again...i dont know what to do

[Dolphin14]

Easilycrushed

Sounds to me like you have an easy decision. You have more negatives than positives listed.

Does not sound like you would be happy there at all

🐬

[Easilycrushed in reply to Dolphin14]

I bought the house in February of this year. Now im stuck the with house and i just really dont knkw what to do. tbh i dont think i can live in it. When i broke up with my fiance and made him move out, i moved out too. Im living with family members. And still paying on the house. 😢😭 i had it theu a realtor company and the realtor wanted to sell it for only 50,000 when i bought it for 73000. So i canceled on the realtor because she was trying to rip me off.I just......just dont know what to do. I really loved him but he wasnt responsible,he would work and help pay bills but he wouldnt help me around the house. His 2 toddlers he ignored and they needed guidance and teaching-which he didnt want to do unless i kept asking him over and over. They were 4 and 2. Still in diapers and the 4yr old couldnt speak i think the poor baby is autistic and the little boy i was helping teach him to speak. The little boy he was my buddy. He helped me around the house. He would pick up stuff and think he did a 100 cause he was helping🥹he was such a kind little toddler. The other child a little girl couldn't speak and if u told her no or not to do something she would scream and cry then run into her room and jump down on the bed and scream and cry because someone told her no. It just crushed me. I tried to do everything and help them. But i couldn't do enough.

We tried to be friends but it didnt work because he wanted me back and wanted to move back in. I told him no. He said okay we can be friends then. A few days later, he shows up to work with a girl in his jeep-we work at the same factory and yes stupid mistake on me- he said shes just a friend who heeds a ride. Well she rides to and from work with him and they walk in and out of work together all the time now...even after she got a vehicle....and it just makes me sick. He didnt hide it. And it seriously hurts.

He just found another woman asap. There was always issues come up with his ex that didnt do a good job watching the kids, she texted him all the time And his mom is bad into drugs. Then i found out he was talking to other girls the day after we broke up so now i doubt everything he told me....i really screwed my life and heart up....so now i have a house in town that i cant even go to without breaking down and crying....i wish i could just erase everything 💔

[Dolphin14 in reply to Easilycrushed]

It sounds like he's moved on.

You don't have to settle on the price of 50,000. There is research involved, market analysis but at the end of the day you can list it for 70,000 and see if you get bites. It's worth a try. You don't want to leave it abandoned

[Easilycrushed in reply to Dolphin14]

That is what i get for believing in someone. I get used

[Dolphin14 in reply to Easilycrushed]

I'm so sorry

[Easilycrushed in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you for reading and responding with ur kind words. My family keeps telling me to be strong and everything will be okay. That god has a purpose for my 😢

[b1b1b1]

You should also think about financial considerations, as that may give you a clearer answer.

[BeachynPeachy]

I know it sounds a little silly but can you get renters? The renters can pay the cost of the house until you been like you are ready to let it go. And you can rent somewhere outside of town. It is a band aid but could be an option.