What is the age range in these groups ?

[Pocha45]

Im asking this because I am going through a hard time since I was 21 now im in my 30s and this is the worse. I want to live but apart of me just cant take it my direction is all over the place i have to find a new job scared as hell to start over its like i dont want to be around anyone anymore yet I feel guilty not being able to live up to my fil potential due to my illness. Im trying my best but the results are not happening as fast as I would like. Then I run into the relapse phase I dont want to get better just to shut down again. I ask why do we have to go through these things its no fun. Praying for strength.

[Sprinkle1]

First of all remember your brain is ill, are you on any meds? The group I go to are lady's probably in their 30's and 40's, I am 75 and am most welcome in the group. Guilt is a waste of time, I went thru that throw it out, it will save you some pain. Listen quietly to your self and dont't listen to your brain that lies to you. You are a good, strong lovable person, never forget that, and do not do comparisons with others that is deadly. Love yourself, be kind to yourself and do at least one good thing a day just for you. I send you a big Hug, love & peace. Sprinkle 1

[Pocha45 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Oh thank you that made me smile. .fear of the unknown kills me ...but life is not easyall the time of i can be comfortable in my own skinand create a life i love..my whole world will change for the better.

[Haley7]

I know the guilt of not living up to your full potential. I wonder often if I ever will. My sister and I both have depression and anxiety. We talk on the phone long distance and try to support each other. She says to me all the time: “I wonder what it would be like to be normal”

All of us here suffer from something that makes life difficult, but we have to keep moving forward, if not for ourselves but for those that love us so dearly. Seek some counseling, and please know that you are NOT alone. Continue to pray for strength. I will pray for you as well.

[Pocha45 in reply to Haley7]

I'm scared this is crazy i resigned to get better. .but the meds arent kicking in counseling is ok ....now i have to meet new people stop being anxious i barely want to leave the house. .....my mood changesall the time one minute I'm OK by the next day I'm crying i was like this and working 40 hours until i broke. ...I've been holding on for awhile its just to much and the holidays are here .. ughhh .yes to be normal again how awesome !!

[pinkplasticball]

I’m 31 and have had depression since I was 18. I’ve had offs and ons, ups and downs, non medicated times and medicated times. This too, is the worst period for me. My dad has mental illness also and was told the 30s is the most common age of people who come in. For some reason it tends to get worse in your 30s.

Are you seeing a doctor or therapist? On any meds? I know it’s a hard process to begin, I’ve done it several times, but it’s worth it. That’s if you haven’t already. If you have, you should update them if these are new symptoms or your symptoms are worsening.

I hope you find a way to cope with these feelings and we are always here for emotional support ❤️

[Pocha45 in reply to pinkplasticball]

I feel like I'm losing my mind some days are ok then the days where I want my pain to just end. 28 days on wellbutrin no change everything I'm on I'm allergic too . How do people live like this. The holidays are here and I'm really trying to stay strong.

[Karmakat in reply to Pocha45]

Hi, i feel for you so much. I had the same thoughts in my head when i had my first severe bout of depression when i was 31. And i wanted to give up so many times i thought when will this get better? It did get better and i am 50 now and going through my second bad bout for the first time since i was 31. The years in between were up and down but not weeks or months of straight depression, i would have many good months well better months, a bad few days then good weeks...but it was something i could handle and survive.

I too ask why do we have to go through this? It seems so unfair that so many people are normal and never experience this torture but take their normal feelings of being happy for granted and then complain about silly things that make them "depressed" ..i guess as my psychiatrist says we have an illness just like people get many physical illnesses...its a super tough illness and i have wished i would get cancer many times and just die, but that is not for us to choose...we have to look after ourselves best ways we can and treat it like we are just as sick as someone with physical illnesses, even though people many times cant understand it, because they cant "see" it.

[Pocha45]

Im just scared of starting over job wise i want to be at least 80 percent ready it's been 3 months since i left my job of 12 years I'm so uncomfortable in my own skin its crazy then with the depression and anxiety i guess it makes it worse all summer was miserable not feeling good inside and out at times i do want to just go i want this negative to rurn out to be great i really do fear of the unknown kills us

[gogogirl]

Well, I am in my 60s. Welcome.

[Hidden]

I’m 21 and I’ve had depression and anxiety problems since I was 7. I haven’t made a post to introduce myself as I haven’t felt up to it yet.. 😞

[Pocha45]

Wow so young that must have been very hard and still is

[Hidden in reply to Pocha45]

Yes thank you. I just made an intro post.

[HigherLearning]

I’m 33. I was first diagnosed with anxiety and depression when I was a teenager. It’s unclear whether it’s biological or environmental as I’m a victim of abuse, and mental illness runs in my family so it’s probably a bit of both. I’ve felt the way you’ve described. I’ve been so low that I didn’t care or think I could make it through. Didn’t know how to be strong and couldn’t even rack up the hope to pray. At one point I was experiencing so much mental fatigue with anxiety and depression that I took too many sleeping pills because I just wanted to be able to get some sleep. Fortunately it didn’t result in the worst obviously, and someone was there to notice and get me help. If it helps at all, I survived. In those moments, I never would have imagined that I would press on and eventually earn a masters degree. I couldn’t even bring myself to pray! But here I am- still beating many odds. It’s been a tough, unimaginable road, and it’s not over. I still struggle- quite a bit, but somewhere in this messed up brain of mine I say to myself, if I can make it this far while struggling as I have imagine what I can accomplish if I strive to break thru these mental burdens. I’m glad you’re here in this group. Keep sharing. That means you still have hope despite the fear or defeat you may feel. That little tiny pearl of hope can keep one foot moving in front of the other and that’s progress. Don’t measure the progress - be encouraged by your movement

[Molldoll14 in reply to HigherLearning]

You're story is so inspiring. I am 24 and diagnosed with anxiety and depression and was abused as a child and every day is somewhat of a struggle more or less but I try to keep telling myself it will get better. Having that optimistic outlook on life has completely transformed how i deal with my anxiety and depression and has made it 10x more bearable. I hope to earn a masters degree someday and I think it's awesome that you did!

[Pocha45 in reply to HigherLearning]

Wow that just made me tear up I am very proud of you !! Sometimes when you are in the dark so long the light seems dim but you turned on that switch !

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

I am 46 I’ve seen 15 year olds and people in their 70’s. I just want to say that if you are doing the best you can with the limitations you have due to your illness then that is all you can do. It is physically impossible to do more. It’s accepting your illness and developing coping skills so that you can function the best you can. It’s very hard. I know. Try not to be too hard on yourself. I have mental and physical limitations so I completely understand. I hope you find your balance.

[Pocha45]

Thank you this is the hardest time in my life ! Loving new all over again is,a,challenge i want even to just go away do i can live a normal life go back to work and obtain things that i have not done in my past. I focus on image way to much smh but with the Depression and anxiety causes low self esteem breaking this is hard work ots scary because you don't know what the outcome will be.