trying something new

[rain_55]

So ive decided to go back to school. After the pain i have gone through with my breakup i know i have to start focusing on myself and less time being sad of something that has ended. The thing is though i dont know how to focus on myself. I dont know how to do things for myself. To be honest im scared. Im scared to have anything I want because it can be taken away. Im terrified of what the future will hold, and to fail.

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If you really look at things it isn’t really losing things that scares you but change. The relationship ending was a change. Starting school is a change. Change sometimes contains loss but at the root it is a change in life.

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Hi Rain,

School can definitely give you other things to think about, and you will be doing something for yourself. It will all come together one step at a time. Keep telling yourself you can do it. When you have a negative thought, come up with a positive thought right away.

"When you are scared but you still do it anyway, that's brave." Be brave.....you can do this.

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Hi rain!

Don’t go projecting future failure on yourself before you really get started! Don’t visit the future in such a way! You don’t know that you will fail, so stop adding more anxiety on yourself that you don’t need right now. Live in today and let go of yesterday and tomorrow. Take baby steps in achieving your goals. Think positively!! You can do this! Facing a challenging situation will absolutely produce some anxiety, but it’s temporary! Wishing you the best 🌞

[debbiegk]

Good for you! I think it is wonderful you want to return to school. I agree with one of the other posters that change can be scary. Not only will you enjoy studying something you enjoy, you will make new friendships! Maybe this link will help with your new adventure: bit.ly/2N02sXP

[Agora1]

rain_55, you've gotten excellent advice and support, now it's up to you to take that first step forward with no fears, no doubts. It's your time now Be confident, be positive and believe in yourself. xx