Mom's got high blood pressure. I hate getting old

[No_Longer_Human]

It's supposed to be the best years of my life and im lost. No friends. No university privileges. No perspectives. Unemployed because of my anxiety. I can't even breathe. Plus worst of all parents getting old. Mom's got high blood pressure and been really weak. Also menopause and she's bleeding and drinking all the time. And my stupid father ran with a 20yo tomboy instead of taking care of his wife and his parents and broke me and now even i can't take care of them. I can't even take care of myself. I can't breathe

[Alpakka123]

Lots of people have high blood pressure. What's your mom having high blood pressure have to do with you? Menopause is a part of being a woman. What does your mom experiencing this have to do with you?

You are not your mom. You need to separate the two. The relationship between your mom and dad is also separate from you.

[Pizzacat1 in reply to Alpakka123]

Even so these issues are very stressing. I went through the illnesses and passing of both my parents.

I think the original poster is dealing with a lot right now. I understand it. But many of us have concerns and worries about our parents. We want the best for them and it hurts in situations like this.

[No_Longer_Human in reply to Pizzacat1]

For real. Im trough a lot and as she's without my dad i worry about her a lot. I'm really through a lot. Im sorry for your parents. If she passes away, i will go crazy

[No_Longer_Human in reply to Alpakka123]

Thank you so much! It's not my burden to carry and a lot of people have it. This is reassuring

[Alpakka123 in reply to No_Longer_Human]

You're welcome, sweetheart! Right; it's not your burden. I know how hard it is to separate yourself from the burdens of others, but please try. I know you've been struggling with your therapist. I think if he has something concrete to work with you on (like this), he'd be more willing to help. I really do.

[Pizzacat1]

You are dealing with some issues that are very close to you. I understand. It is hard when you love and care about those around you.

Have you considered therapy for yourself? I am not sure how to approach this so just a suggestion Can you get out and do something away from your mom? Or is there something you can both do together without her having the opportunity to drink?

Is there an Al-Anon meeting near you? This is a group for people dealing with someone in their life with drinking problems. I cannot personally vouch for them as I have no experience with them.

We are here for you. You are not alone.

[No_Longer_Human in reply to Pizzacat1]

Thank you ❤️. I do really care about her. Basically all my life revolves around her. I called a hotline and it helped, i do need therapy, just too broke. It grounds me and gives me space to talk. Wish i wasn't scammed so i could give these money for therapy. Also doing something for myself helps too. We used to go to the parks together but now she doesn't want to. I really want to take her on walks instead of drinking. This is all great advice

[CLB1125]

your mom needs to see a doctor. Weakness can be caused by many different things.

[majones_0608]

Sometimes I feel as if I can't breath either. Luckily my parents can take care of themselves for the most part. Except my Dad can't cook so he constantly relies on my Mom to cook dinner which I don't like because it feels almost sexist that he would insist she be the one to do the cooking. I sometimes help of course. I just helped her peel tons of apples a couple times in the past week for her apple crisp and for almost a half dozen apple pies. I friend of theirs has an apple orchard and brought us tons of apples and I almost literally me tons. I am also not able to work because of my anxiety but also I have issues with my schizophrenia as well. So I have bad issues with my temper and anger. Lets just say I can go from zero to bi#@ in a matter of seconds. I get so scared that I often can't sleep such as the night before last I couldn't sleep at all because of my bad anxiety. So last night I finally caught up on sleep and it felt great. Something that helps me is meditation and prayer. I love to meditate and pray. It feels great. I would highly recommend it.