I decided

[sad_watermelon]

I deduced that I will set some boundaries with my friend (my ex). As he is getting distant, I decided to get distant too.

If he texts me, I might reply (I will try not to reply immediately, but in 30-60 minutes).

If he doesn't text me, then I won't text him either.

I just hope I'll be able to do it. For 2 years we have been texting every day, and today it's the longest that I've been without texting him and hearing from him.

I decided to write here and share my feelings and experience with this.

For the moment I am trying to distract myself from texting him.

But there are good things! If he texts me, then it means he cares at least a little bit. If he doesn't, then it will be easier for me to let go (he was a bit rude to me sometimes and a lot of people here advised me to end the friendship too, but I am not able to do it).

If you want to know more about him, I wrote a lot here and in my last post too

If you are also experiencing a similar situation, I would love to hear how it's going for you!

[gajh]

That is great that you set that boundary. Good that you are here posting about it. We are here to support you. Try to distract yourself and do something different if you feel like texting him. Text someone else instead. Post here instead. Keep taking care of yourself.

[Starrlight]

“But there are good things! If he texts me, then it means he cares at least a little bit. If he doesn't, then it will be easier for me to let go o either way,”

It’s a win win it sounds like. Good plan

[Midori]

Sounds like the right decision to me. Try to stay strong.

Cheers, Midori

[sad_watermelon in reply to Midori]

Today he was writing a lot so I decided to ask him the questions that were keeping me awake at night and his answers made it all worse... Now I'm crying and he doesn't care apparently 😢

[Midori in reply to sad_watermelon]

So sorry to say this to you, Sad Watermelon, but I believe in your heart you already know what to do.

Start ignoring him, or block him if you have to. This relationship is going nowhere and I don't want it to take you down. You are too good a person. He doesn't deserve your care.

He either doesn't understand your feelings, or doesn't care, I'm afraid. Keeping him, even as a friend is going to cause you more heartbreak.

Cheers, Midori

[sad_watermelon in reply to Midori]

I have been trying to end the friendship, but still can't even after a month of trying. Something in me doesn't want to lose him. He said he has good feelings for me and I don't want to cut him off, because he's not so bad as a person.

I just don't want to think about him so much, to overthink, I can't focus on everything, nothing is interesting anymore, all I do is try to find answers

[Alpakka123]

I'm so proud of you with this! It's hard, isn't it? But you are doing what is right for you and that is really, really good!

"But there are good things! If he texts me, then it means he cares at least a little bit" sticks out to me in your post. I've been going through this journey with my situation. It's nice to know that people care for us. BUT... please don't feel bad if he doesn't text. It says absolutely nothing about you if he doesn't. Mine never did and it killed me inside for a long time. It took my a long time to figure out that her not responding was not directly related to my self-worth.

Anyway...I just wanted to pass that on.

[mizzou7016]

The trick for you....is to not bend to the pressure....you have set the boundary...now is the time to enact strategies to keep within the parameters of the boundary