How to detach?

[sad_watermelon]

I really need to detach from my ex boyfriend. We broke up because we didn't want the same thing in life, but are still very good friends. The problem is that we were together for 20 months and I got really attached to him and it's hard for me to let go all the habits of regularly texting and seeing eachother. I don't have many friends so he was the person who was there for me all the time. I don't have romantic feelings for him anymore, I just need to stop being so obsessed with talking to somebody.

[mizzou7016]

As long as you both understand that it is no longer a romantic relationship and are comfortable with a platonic friendship. Don't see what the issue is..he was a part of your life for almost 2 years

[sad_watermelon in reply to mizzou7016]

Exactly. We do understand it and don't have feelings for eachother, but I am way too attached to him, not in the romantic way, but just to talking to him, spending time with him and I don't think it's healthy for me. Even if he wasn't my ex, but he was a friend since the begging, I don't want to be attached so much to him and I want it to change.

[mizzou7016 in reply to sad_watermelon]

Then change it. Make it harder for yourself....delete the easy ways you have to contact him.....

[mizzou7016]

Sorry for sounding like a jerk...it's never easy to let someone you care about in any way go....but if it's bothering you that much....you need to do something about it

[cashew78]

you get by by doing other things. Eventually those other things become more presciant and immediate than the need to contact that person. It takes time. And, of course, there's hurt and grief over what was. Good luck.

[glenninindy]

Psycho-Dynamic- Psychotherapy or Talk Therapy, with a trained Psychotherapist , has proven to be very beneficial for certain people who need to explore themselves and their motivations, such as co-dependency traits.