BREAKUP

[Thedentist1998]

my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me because i had a lot of bad days and hospital interventions , but in the end she was just talking behind my back about how bad a person i am at dealing with depression and the loss of my mom , i dont know what to do , she blocked me from every social network because was begging her , and i dont what to think now , i am having a lot of panic atacks pls help

[Against_the_current]

Hey, that's so tough. Grieve her out and let her go. Happened to me like a month ago. My boyfriend who was supporting me just blocked me and moved to another country. If they do this, they're not worthy. It's okay to be sad. Take your time and release her. I feel better now

[Arymretep]

I agree, it’s her loss , you are better than that, look after yourself, x

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

I'm sorry that this happened to you. Breakups are tough and difficult especially when you are kind of blindsided and not getting amicable closure.

Most people don't really understand depression and kind of think you're choosing to be sad. That's not the case. Also the depression made even worse by losing your mother which by the way my condolences. Sorry for your loss.

Just going by what you said that she's speaking poorly about how you are handling the death of your mother and depression. She doesn't seem like the kind of person you would want to hold on to.

A kind and caring person would try to be understanding and even help you with this. And even if she felt this is all too much, she could have had a long talk with you about breaking up. That her mental health isn't in a good place either and she can't help you and you can't help her. Maybe it's best to end things before they get bad. Sure, it hurts but there is some closure. Maybe in time you 2 can still be friends. But this is just a poorly handled on her part.

I'm sorry that it's going to hurt bad before it gets better. You have to feel the pain and grieve the loss of this relationship.

But remember panic attacks don't kill or hurt you. They are just uncomfortable. But you will be okay. Look up some breathing exercises to help with self soothing yourself.

Wishing you healing and peace 🫂 ❤️

[ElephantsHear]

break ups are awful. Be good to yourself and realize that there’s better waiting for you.

[AkrasiaRage13]

I'm really sorry you're going through so much loss man. Sometimes people have to do what they think is right for their own life but they can also have some pretty crappy ways of doing it and poor timing. It sounds like you're dealing with both. That's also a huge shift for you that changes your world overnight no matter how you slice it. I am dealing with a sudden and harsh breakup as well but wasn't with them as long so I can only imagine the sense of unreality.Best advice I can give after surviving and enduring a couple months out is to focus on a lot small things to keep your mind as busy as possible. Do at least one thing every day to attempt to heal yourself even if it's small. And most importantly find a small furry animal to pet immediately

[Spud-u-Like1982]

Hi Thedentist1998,

So sorry to hear that you were treated like that, but especially when you're grieving over the loss of your Mum. You have every right to grieve and to be depressed at the loss of your Mum - we only get 1 Mum and 1 Dad in this life. Sounds like you're better off without your girlfriend. My own girlfriend just broke up with me the other week after nearly 7 years together. We still live together and share the same bed, but it is really weird and awkward. I'm quite a sentimental person, so that is causing me upset at times, but ruminating over things I am beginning to see that maybe my relationship just wasn't meant to be, as I don't think she ever loved me. I'm more concerned about what will happen with our 3 female rabbits, as I have a strong bond to them.

My advice is grieve for the loss of the relationship, but think about the bad times and how she made you feel. You will probably start to notice a pattern of hurt and uncaring that will highlight to you that you are best without her. You are young and will definitely find a better love than the one you just lost. It may seem difficult at first, but if you meet up with friends, watch some movies you like and listen to lots of music you like, hopefully it will help erase that relationship from your memory.

Keep your Mum in your heart and kick your ex out of there, as a girl like that isn't worth your time, as she sounds very uncaring and unsympathetic. Oh, and just remember, if you want to vent about things and how you're feeling then this is a good place to vent, gain other perspectives and advice, as there will always be someone who relates to you or who you can relate to.

Best of luck, sir!

[Tacos4life]

Letting go isn't always easy. She doesn't understand what you're going through. Take some time to yourself and do the things you enjoy doing.