Anxiety and depression bleeding into my life from flirting

[Lukeyhillbilly]

in the past couple weeks, I began texting a girl for maybe the first time in about 4 years. Everything seems like it’s going well, but thinking about what to say is eating me alive. Often I can’t even bring myself to respond to her without the help of a friend since this is very alien to me. Every message she sends me has me doubting the possibility of the relationship, not for any good reason as a few days later I think about our previous messages and feel good about them. Only in the moment. Not only is this making me more anxious generally in my life, a few times I have irrationally fantasized about dying. I’ve never actually seriously considered it, but I think about it quite often whenever I am out of my comfort zone such as now. I’ve began doubting every aspect of myself and it seems to be happening in this situation as well. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

PS— I am planning on meeting with a therapist at some point soon, but I do not have a concrete appointment yet.

[Snowflake77]

Girls just like guys to be themselves. Tell her how you are feeling. Don’t worry about the future with her. Just get to know her now. Take it slow. Find out what you have in common.