The challenge of letting go.

[Sunsetlover19]

My mind is often held captive to rumination and learning to let go can be challenging. I welcome any suggestions. 🤍

[Teaching]

It's hard but I do it for my sanity. I'll forgive but keep my distance.

[Sunsetlover19 in reply to Teaching]

Hi Teaching, Thanks for your reply, I find forgiving then keeping my distance helpful too. 🤍

[Violetlife]

Hi Sunsetlover19. Sorry, this may not be very helpful, but in my experience letting go of the concept of letting go helps. I think letting go happens organically without forcing it. I just become aware of any thoughts/feelings on the person/situation without judging or saying they’re wrong. If I do become totally embroiled in the thoughts/feelings they’ll work through me, they’ll pass…like clouds in the sky, some are dark and lingering, but they always pass x

[Sunsetlover19 in reply to Violetlife]

Your reply is helpful and I appreciate you sharing it with me. Thank you Violetlife! 🤍

[Sunrisetabby]

Have you listened to, or read anything by the late Vietnamese monk Thic Naht Han? I have now been trying for almost 25 years to incorporate this gem of his: "Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment." Along the lines of what Violetlife wrote, I think the key to letting go is to focus on the present moment. Similarly, but in a vastly different style, I highly recommend the writings of Ellen Langer, and her book the Mind Body Connection. Langer has said that regret is mindless and mindful is fun.

[Sunsetlover19 in reply to Sunrisetabby]

Thanks the suggestion. I appreciate it very much. I will check out your recommendations. 🤍

[catsrock]

I like tapping meditations for this.

[Sunsetlover19 in reply to catsrock]

Yes, great suggestion. Thank you for your reply Catsrock! 🤍

[Alpakka123]

Hello,I'm sorry that you ruminate. I ruminate to the max and it is insufferable! I find that EFT/tapping really helps me with this. There's an app called "The Tapping Solution" that I use quite frequently. If you've never heard of EFT/tapping before, the EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It entails tapping on various points on your face and torso while meditating. There's a whole science behind this. I think the points are called meridians.

I don't know about you, but I get beyond frustrated with myself for doing this. I really hate it very much! I'm learning how to be kind to myself and the way I think.

[Sunsetlover19 in reply to Alpakka123]

Thanks for your reply Alpakka! I will look into your recommendation. 🤍

[Alpakka123 in reply to Sunsetlover19]

You're welcome 🤗

[Nothing_but_books]

Distraction is the only thing that works for me. That and a bottle of benzos. 😬

I will share one thing I've learned. Zipping it to keep peace doesn't keep peace.

[Sunsetlover19]

Hi! Thanks for your reply. I definitely use distraction a lot. I appreciate your feedback. 🤍