Tips on letting go

[Thistooshallpass7]

Every time I build up the courage to walk away from horrible situations, I find myself going right back.

How do you actually let go? I always admire persons who can pick up and leave because something is not serving them, I strive to be like that. However, even though I know I deserve better I am incapable of leaving.

I think about the person being with someone else and being happy or treating them better. I think about not being able to get another partner or having to start over If I think about leaving my job , I worry about everything that can go wrong as a result . When I tell myself I should not have to reach out to persons for them to be my friends, I worry that I will never have friends and I reach out anyway even though they don’t.

Honestly I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Any suggestions will be helpful 🥹 I know it’s not crazy issues and persons face real struggles that are worse than these but these things consume me so much that it physically hurts sometimes

[brendonkellyrox]

you got friends here online friends but thats better than being completely alone if someone seems toxic its not a good friend we got you here

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to brendonkellyrox]

❤️ TY

[Hidden]

Hey Chrissy.

The battlefield of the mind can be such a bitch. For me I was so very sick and was desperate for help to try and find answers. It took me until I felt better and didn’t need others to leave them that were toxic to me. I didn’t have the worry aspect that you do , because my particular anxiety doesn’t seem to lend itself to it.

I believe I get your dilemma and anybody can tell you to “ just do it” and “ you deserve better”, but when you use a word such as “horrible “ and can’t act to the path you want. What will it take to say “horrible “ is not acceptable and beneficial to your life.

You deserve to be as happy as you can be so what will it take.? Therapy? Someone to hold you accountable ? Enough crap to happen that you reach your limit ?

Since it is such a battlefield and such a difficult mountain to climb I for one would first pray like crazy for strength and guidance, define goals and a path to get there in a concise plan on paper.

It is a proven fact that writing down your goals and plan to achieve said goal make you 4 times more likely to reach them. Gotta look at them , in your case maybe quite often, to help hold yourself accountable to said goal. It can help you track your progress and alter your plan if and when necessary.

Basically your talking the control of your mind and maybe others can offer better answers to techniques to get there.

All the best to you

You do deserve it. We all do

Much love

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to Hidden]

I relate so much to accepting so much crap until I finally reach my limit. I believe this is what I do, because I can’t willingly walk away I tend to wait for the worst to happen until I’m forced . Which is so unhealthy

I will consider going back to therapy and being more focused on self love as much as I can

[corgi_fan817]

chrissyj7. I can identify with you. I read another post you wrote earlier. I think you care that is why it is hard for you to let go. There is something that you want out of life and it just has not happened yet. Sending hugs.

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to corgi_fan817]

🫂❤️ TY

[Misunderstood86]

I feel the exact same way.

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to Misunderstood86]

Sucks right!

[Misunderstood86 in reply to Thistooshallpass7]

Yes it does and ppl don't want to accept your problems but want you to always listen to them

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to Misunderstood86]

I know right

[corgi_fan817]

hope you are doing better today

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to corgi_fan817]

Thanks for checking. I am trying my best but some days are just horrible.

[corgi_fan817]

emotions take time to process. hugs.

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to corgi_fan817]

They do for sure! I cried my life out last night. Literally, feeling so bleh.

[corgi_fan817]

😞I'm sorry. Wish I can make things better for you. More hugs! Hopefully you can get out and doing something enjoyable. It's raining here.

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to corgi_fan817]

Thank youuu . I tried to but felt the same way throughout and when I got home

[mizzou7016]

I'm just gonna throw this out there and see what ya think...why are you so resistent in giving yourself the same care that you give others...contrary to what your brain says...you are very deserving and needing self care and self love....no one deserves the negatives...it is worth it...and you are deserving....so put your mind and spirit on your to do list....and it is also ok to put yourself at the top of your to do list....it's not selfish....it's necessary for survival.

also gave this web article to someone else today....will give it to you....it's about cognitive distortions

verywellmind.com/cognitive-...